Published on 12, July, 2020
Hiya,
I wanted to take a moment to share something that's been on my mind lately, hoping to connect with others who might have similar experiences. I (20M) have autism, while my girlfriend (18F) does not. We have a wonderful relationship, but there's one aspect that has been a bit challenging for me to navigate.
Recently, my girlfriend has been coming home after working out at the gym and getting naked in front of me, expecting us to engage in intimate activities. Now, let me be clear: I appreciate her desire and attraction towards me, and I genuinely love her. However, I've found that sex tends to be overwhelming for me in terms of sensory input.
Do any of yous experience this or if it's just me. I'm not being ungrateful towards my girlfriend, nor am I trying to diminish the importance of intimacy in our relationship. Instead, I'm seeking understanding and connection with others who might have found themselves in similar situations.
It's crucial to communicate openly and honestly with our partners about our needs, boundaries, and unique sensory experiences. While my girlfriend is aware of my autism, I don't think she fully understands the sensory challenges I face during intimate moments. Explaining this to her is something I'm working on, but it can be difficult to put into words.
TL;DR: I (20M) have autism, and my girlfriend (18F) doesn't. I find sex overwhelming due to sensory overload. Wondering if others had similar experiences and looking for advice on how to navigate this aspect of relationships.
I used to have some lesbian/ bi friends that would randomly grab and cup each others boobs in public. And I remember saying I was a little bit Jelious because it looked like fun. So for a while they started doing it to me. Just randomly running their hands over my chest or grabbing my nipples. And every time they did id virtually jump out of my skin and squeal. Sometimes I’d even say stop. But ironically right afterwards id be like ‘why'd you stop I was enjoying that.’
sensations can be simultaneously both enjoyable and overwhelming especially if you feel out of control. I think you’ve just got to learn to embrace the overstimulation and of course build up a strong bond of trust with those involved.