Published on 12, July, 2020
Again I have been kept awake, this time by my neighbour bloody coughing of all things! Excuse the language but I am angry. Far worse things could come out but are not fit for this forum.
Two nights ago, I kept on being kept awake by my neighbour's deep, husky cough, then the next night students woke me up at 4am by talking loudly outside my flat, and today I could hear my neighbour again.
Now, it is no-one's fault if they suffer from a cough, we all do from time to time, but I should not have to hear it!. The walls must be paper thin at my ground floor flat - there is only one neighbour above me, and is Council owned.
Thankfully I am going home to my parents for the weekend, where I am never woken up by neighbour's coughing - it is a semi-detached. I do sometimes hear the neighbour cough, but because she is not directly above me it is very faint, and I don't seem to hear it at night-time.
Ear-plugs don't work so my only solution is to put my fingers in my ears in order to get some sleep. This is uncomfortable, and I now have sore ears, but otherwise I would have to listen to such a horrible noise. The sound of coughing, by the way, makes me stressed straight away, probably because I have OCD. It is one of my trigger noises.
Am so annoyed, and hate the fact that homes are not built with proper, thick walls.
Anguished Sibling said:I'm so very sorry Intenseworld...it's just that his/her earplugs were not having the desired effect and his ears were sore due to sticking his fingers in them. I'm not sure if the Council would come out and thicken the walls...maybe they would. I wasn't sure either how long the neighbours cough would continue.i thought the best solution by far would be for Hope to escape from all noise. Why continue living in a society that won't accommodate you 24/7???The "solutions" you offered were ridiculously unrealistic and therefore even I could summise that they were intended sarcastically. We don't have any reasonable choice but to live in this society.I may be a lowly neurotypical but I show a lot more consideration and compassion than my Aspie brother. My 71 year old mother was in a state of abject fear yesterday due to him.No-one has said neurotypicals are lowly. There are times we discuss our frustration at the lack of understanding of neurotypicals but this could be said by anyone with any disability or any reason to be different. You keep blaming your brother but you have not explained once what it is that he has done. Until you do so, we cannot offer advice. I thought you said your parents moved far away to escape your brother?Aspergers/autism does not equal sainthood.No-one has said that it does. Your point?You don't have to panic. This is a cosy forum for ASD people to be comforted. I thought it would be enlightening for you all to hear an opinion from outside this narrow worldview. I will now leave you all to it. Keep up the good work!We don't have a narrow world view and no-one's "panicking". Don't you think we are up to our necks daily in neurotypicals' world views? Why do you feel we need enlightening? Sarcasm isn't enlightening, it's boring.So far, you haven't done much to convince me you are a genuine member seeking support. No doubt if your brother is as bad as you purport you will have been negatively affected emotionally, but that doesn't give you the right to take it out on others.
i thought the best solution by far would be for Hope to escape from all noise. Why continue living in a society that won't accommodate you 24/7???
The "solutions" you offered were ridiculously unrealistic and therefore even I could summise that they were intended sarcastically. We don't have any reasonable choice but to live in this society.
I may be a lowly neurotypical but I show a lot more consideration and compassion than my Aspie brother. My 71 year old mother was in a state of abject fear yesterday due to him.
No-one has said neurotypicals are lowly. There are times we discuss our frustration at the lack of understanding of neurotypicals but this could be said by anyone with any disability or any reason to be different. You keep blaming your brother but you have not explained once what it is that he has done. Until you do so, we cannot offer advice. I thought you said your parents moved far away to escape your brother?
Aspergers/autism does not equal sainthood.
No-one has said that it does. Your point?
You don't have to panic. This is a cosy forum for ASD people to be comforted. I thought it would be enlightening for you all to hear an opinion from outside this narrow worldview.
I will now leave you all to it. Keep up the good work!
We don't have a narrow world view and no-one's "panicking". Don't you think we are up to our necks daily in neurotypicals' world views? Why do you feel we need enlightening? Sarcasm isn't enlightening, it's boring.
So far, you haven't done much to convince me you are a genuine member seeking support. No doubt if your brother is as bad as you purport you will have been negatively affected emotionally, but that doesn't give you the right to take it out on others.