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Rejection sensitive dysphoria

IndigoMandala

Anyone else have this?

it’s truly terrible and I have no idea where it came from but it’s been there since very early childhood. It gets better with age but goddam ruled most of my life and only heard of it’s name today. Seems more of an adhd trait but do any other autists have this have this as well?

  • Hi, your post caught my eye as I definitely experience RSD (and have only recently heard of it myself). I think having Autism can predispose us to rejection as for many of, we didn’t fit in as children / throughout our lives and may have been bullied or ignored, often wondering what we had done wrong. A lifetime of this can lead to hyper-vigilance  and we can sometimes incorrectly perceive signs of rejection too. The pain associated with rejection is awful - often disproportionately so considering the actual event. You are not alone! 

  • in reply to Touay

    I’m not too bad with perceiving emotions and can know when people are upset or angry. It’s a minefield for sure all the other things and trying to navigate that, especially if your perceptions are not on the same page 

  • in reply to IndigoMandala

    You are welcome.

    It’s a great video.

  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    Thanks for the reply will have a read Sunglasses 

  • I expect it is common, because w do not 'see' affection in the facial expressions of others.  Every time an NT sees someone who loves them greet them, they see it ....

    I have 'seen' an emotion in the face of another person twice in my life, all the rest is just interpretation and guess-work, which is never emotionally real.

  • Hello! I don’t experience RSD but it’s very common experience in our autistic community. Here is a very in depth video about Rejection Sensitivity in our autistic community.

    I hope you find it relatable:

    https://www.youtube.com/live/bonc8qtj0y4?feature=share

  • To be honest I’ve no idea what you’re talking about. I think everyone is somewhat afraid of rejection to varying degrees, depending on how much people encountered it in their lives before. Some people a little and some people a lot.