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Avoiding Hugs

Eyes
over 1 year ago

Hi All,

I'm newly diagnosed with Autism. One thing that has come up a few times in my thoughts is I can now kind of avoid hugs with people I don't know very well (to be honest that feels like most people I see on a regular basis!)

I used to go along with it if someone initiated it even though I hated it but now I don't think I need to anymore. Does anyone have a way of avoiding hugs causing as little fuss as possible as I've noticed people seem to get offended if you don't want them touching you.

Sorry, I'm sure there's no right answer I'm just looking for tips / how others do it.

Eyes

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  • over 1 year ago

    I also dislike hugs from people, but ended up being a hugger because my husband is very social and it just looked wierd for him to be hugging all our friends (99% of them are our friends because of him, and he encourages me to make a conscious effort. Otherwise I'd happily live on a desert island without any interaction) and me stood to one side grimacing. That developed as part of masking to fit in, but I'm starting to do stuff like position myself a little further away when leaving so I can avoid them if possible. 

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  • over 1 year ago

    I also dislike hugs from people, but ended up being a hugger because my husband is very social and it just looked wierd for him to be hugging all our friends (99% of them are our friends because of him, and he encourages me to make a conscious effort. Otherwise I'd happily live on a desert island without any interaction) and me stood to one side grimacing. That developed as part of masking to fit in, but I'm starting to do stuff like position myself a little further away when leaving so I can avoid them if possible. 

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