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Obsessions with people

NAS87142
over 1 year ago

Hi,

  1. Does anyone else find that they get fascinated with people they meet and become obsessed with them? I tend to do it when I make new friends and I spend a lot of time thinking about them. I have a partner who I absolutely adore, we've been together 3 years and I really do love him a lot. This obsession occurred when we first became friends a few years before getting together. I've been obsessed with friends since. I made a friend at work who I clicked with straight away and I've started to think about them a lot, as is the pattern with me and new people. I just feel guilty about it, like I'm doing something wrong that isn't fair to my partner. I don't have any romantic feelings for this friend, I can easily recognise it as my normal pattern, but I'm struggling with this guilt that's arisen. I don't know, it makes me feel ashamed that I get so attached to people??
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  • over 1 year ago

    i dunno.... with people its confusing. in some parts i wanna be left entirely alone and be isolated and secluded in my own private place... but then on the other hand i get lonely and depressed and kinda crave other people. so its contradictory with me. in general though i do want to be everyone's friend by default and wont really hate them unless they really make out that they dont like me and friendship is off the table. but a friend of everyone is often a friend of no one as everyone seems to fall out and you being friends with both sides can often have both sides turn against you for being friends with the other. i cant really read people very well too so i dont know if they like me or if they dont anyway.

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  • over 1 year ago

    i dunno.... with people its confusing. in some parts i wanna be left entirely alone and be isolated and secluded in my own private place... but then on the other hand i get lonely and depressed and kinda crave other people. so its contradictory with me. in general though i do want to be everyone's friend by default and wont really hate them unless they really make out that they dont like me and friendship is off the table. but a friend of everyone is often a friend of no one as everyone seems to fall out and you being friends with both sides can often have both sides turn against you for being friends with the other. i cant really read people very well too so i dont know if they like me or if they dont anyway.

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  • over 1 year ago in reply to Caelus

    ive never had anything beyond friend though... infact i dont think the things i call friends are actually friends but are more so just acquaintances.

    which must have a effect considering i get weirdly depressive to the point of wanting to hug my boxing bag or curl up in a self hugging way sadly. i dunno. maybe we naturally have a need for someone close to use to physically comfort us and if you cant get it your body goes crazy and depressive and tries to fill the gap somehow. 

    no one will ever go beyond friend with me though.. or acquaintance if thats all they really are lol its too alien to imagine it. but then again owning my own home and having a job was also too alien to imagine but i have those things now so i dunno anythings possible. anyone farther than a friend though seems impossible, im too weird. i dont even socialise or speak enough to form a propper communicative friendship which is why everyones likely always just a acquaintance.