Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey folks. My name is Kali I'm a late diagnosed autistic female. I am travelling in the UK from NZ.
I'm struggling a lot right now. I have just left a relationship and a job which is bound to make me sad but everything is beginning to feel, well hopeless. I have spent a lifetime failing to fit in in the neurotypical world and while I'm kinda OK with that, it feels a lot like there isn't a person or a job or a place for me in the world at all.
I'm not trying to be alarmist. I was hoping some of you other late diagnosed humans might have some tips for me on how to stay connected with people and networks. How to maintain relationships, jobs, or get support and find a place for yourself in the world. I'm less expecting full on answers (I know it's a lot) and more little tips that might bring a little ray of hope to my current perspective.
Thanks Kali.
Good morning Kali, I am Number.
Rather than tips / advice, I thought a couple of kindly reminders might be in order.
Reminder 1 = You are travelling in the UK from NZ. This is inevitably going to make you feel more of a "foreigner" than normal...and less connected to what you know well. Everyone (normie / aspie alike) often feel more alone when they are far, far from home.
Reminder 2 = We tend to roll in cycles I think. If you are feeling especially "down" at the moment, then the good news is that you are probably going to start feeling more "up" sooner than you think. Just wait it out, safe in the knowledge that you will feel better (and more connected/positive) soon.
Reminder 3 = You can be proud of yourself...you're living life. It can be tiring - but a good thing. Remember that you are doing rather well, despite the challenges that you mention at the moment.
I hope this might make you feel a little more "good" this morning.
Kind regards
Number.
Thanks Number. Good reminders indeed.