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Couples counseling

this_is_phil
over 1 year ago

Hi all,

I'm wondering is anyone here has had any experience of couples counseling? Both my wife and I are terrible at communicating our feelings, and I suspect that I often misinterpret her emotions and that she does the same for me. I wonder if anyone has had any success with counseling for this sort of thing?

For reference, I'm diagnosed autistic. My wife isn't, but I suspect she is neurodivergent, but she's happy to see it as being "just herself". All of this is somewhat academic anyway as my wife doesn't like talking to people if she can avoid it.

Thanks in advance,

Phil

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  • over 1 year ago

    Been there, done that and it was very useful.

    I was diagnosed about 2 years ago and the discovery had an impact on my wife - I suspect her lack of knowledge about autism made her see me as something broken or less than normal and this took some therapy to educate us both and it ended up being individual therapy as well (different therapists though) to help us work through our issues.

    I was referred to Psychology Today to find a therapist and found one in Canada (I live in the same time zone but 6000 miles south of them) who has been very good and is well versed in autism, having autistic children of her own.

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling

    I would think it best not to push your wife to get a diagnosis but try to get her to read more about what autism is and how to live with a partner who is autistic. Let her come round to her own conclusions rather than push and you will avoid driving a wedge between you.

    It isn't easy but it was worth it for me.

    Good luck.

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  • over 1 year ago

    Been there, done that and it was very useful.

    I was diagnosed about 2 years ago and the discovery had an impact on my wife - I suspect her lack of knowledge about autism made her see me as something broken or less than normal and this took some therapy to educate us both and it ended up being individual therapy as well (different therapists though) to help us work through our issues.

    I was referred to Psychology Today to find a therapist and found one in Canada (I live in the same time zone but 6000 miles south of them) who has been very good and is well versed in autism, having autistic children of her own.

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling

    I would think it best not to push your wife to get a diagnosis but try to get her to read more about what autism is and how to live with a partner who is autistic. Let her come round to her own conclusions rather than push and you will avoid driving a wedge between you.

    It isn't easy but it was worth it for me.

    Good luck.

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