Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone else struggle with letting people down? Like as in you force yourself to do things you know you're not up to or well enough to do so as not to disappoint people or let them down.
For example, someone invites you to go somewhere with them and you know your not up to going but you go anyway so as not to disappoint or let them down. Particulary if its someone thats nice to you cos then you feel guilty
Anyway I am learning to say no to things, slowly. Just wondered if anyone else has similar experiences
I am terrible at saying no but I’ve been better at setting better boundaries - eg I now don’t put pressure on myself to respond on the spot and I say I need to check my diary, or if I’ve already got something social planned that week I make my excuses. I also just say I’m busy without feeling like I have to give explanation (or I’m hanging out with a friend (me, lol!). Unfortunately sometimes I think I would like to do something but when it comes to it I feel awful and I say I have a migraine. This is all of course masking and I’m trying to figure out how/when to be honest without making people feel like they’re treading on my toes. I also think sometimes it’s a compromise to push yourself when it means a lot to the other person - my sister’s hen do abroad filled me with anxiety but I went because it meant the world to her and I love her. It took a lot out of me though.