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When you get 1 or 2 people that treat you differently at work?

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Right, it's not in a rude way or anything, it's good their treating me like that and it isn't if that makes sense, I'm one of the lucky ones I feel that I even have a job with aspergers and OCD linked together with me. I am a apprentice their and dealing with administration and I'm 22, it's just that I know someone who also started roughly the same time as me, she isn't a apprentice though, but it's just one or 2 people in the workplace treat me differently like being in a really soft pitch tone of voice to me, it's like they treat me as if I am not my age like I'm years younger! I do appreciate the way they support my disability and all that understanding that I can't understand what people mean and what they are saying easily but I don't want to be told like today to calm down, don't panick, don't run etc, I find that quite annoying because I wasn't panicking or anything, I just like to get the job done and I am always full of motivation when I'm doing my job cos I love it so much. I don't see that lady speaking to the other girl who's a simular age group as me, she's 23 but I notice the tone of speech is different like she gets treated as a adult. I know they are doing this to reassure me and keep my anxiety down, but it's really hard for me not to be quite annoyed with it sometimes.

Ever since I found out I have aspergers, I do understand that the way I understand things isn't as good as normal people, and I just find it hard to understand mostly everything else that I don't know about, like when my colleuges talk about events like bike rides, my brain just gets lost cos I don't know what to say back as I couldn't take in all the information. It's just difficult for me to fit in and understand things if they are not explained as clearly and slowly as possible.

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  • Maybe you could take her to one side and tell her you feel she may speak a little differently to you which makes you feel self-conscious because it's not necessary, you would prefer she addresses you exactly like she does your peers.  She may not even be conscious she's doing it.

    I could draw a parallel.  I was once abroad, and some English people thought I was from that country as I don't really look typically English.  They started speaking to me really slowly, exaggerating the shapes of the words and doing hand signs so that I would understand.

    I just looked at them, and answered in very eloquent English and they were so embarrassed at their mistake and the friends of the the person who did it made fun of them for it.

    Perhaps next time she addresses you in that voice, you could respond in a confident, clear, sharp (not terse, sharp as in clarity) tone so that she is (without anything being said) made aware that there is lack of balance in the communication, so you are saying it without words.

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  • Maybe you could take her to one side and tell her you feel she may speak a little differently to you which makes you feel self-conscious because it's not necessary, you would prefer she addresses you exactly like she does your peers.  She may not even be conscious she's doing it.

    I could draw a parallel.  I was once abroad, and some English people thought I was from that country as I don't really look typically English.  They started speaking to me really slowly, exaggerating the shapes of the words and doing hand signs so that I would understand.

    I just looked at them, and answered in very eloquent English and they were so embarrassed at their mistake and the friends of the the person who did it made fun of them for it.

    Perhaps next time she addresses you in that voice, you could respond in a confident, clear, sharp (not terse, sharp as in clarity) tone so that she is (without anything being said) made aware that there is lack of balance in the communication, so you are saying it without words.

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