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Hi my son is 18 and has become really obsessed with our next door neighbour. Both me and her have told him it can't go no further as she is 41 years old and not interested in him in any way other than friends as he helps her with her 2 year old son when they are playing in the garden but it has become too much and he is getting to the point she's starting to become scared of him as he is constantly at her door and leaving little notes for her. I have tried so hard to squash this but I can't get it through to him. He goes to a SEN college and I've asked for help there but haven't got anywhere. It is taking over our lives and I really need help... any suggestions of what I can do or where I can take him for help with this side of his autism.

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Michele.

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  • Whilst I can offer no suggestions, I feel for you (and your neighbour). I'm thinking aloud here, but as your neighbour is off limits, do you think this may be fuelling your son's obsession with her? A case of trying to win her affections and not wanting to accept that your neighbour will never be more than a friendly neighbour?

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  • Whilst I can offer no suggestions, I feel for you (and your neighbour). I'm thinking aloud here, but as your neighbour is off limits, do you think this may be fuelling your son's obsession with her? A case of trying to win her affections and not wanting to accept that your neighbour will never be more than a friendly neighbour?

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  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    We have had a few incidents like this but the person he becomes attached to has always been someone who he doesn't see everyday such as a Facebook friend who will then block him so he can't continue. But now it's someone who he knows he will see everyday. He says he's aware they can never be anything else but friends. But the obsession is starting to worry me and her as she now avoids leaving the house if he's in the garden.