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Stopping wanting to conform

Billy87

Question, at what point in your life did you stop caring about conforming to what everyone else was. At what point did trying to fit in and be like everyone else stop mattering to you, or is it something you still care about?

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  • Don't think it ever mattered to be.

    My old headmaster did once say to me that it was my fault I was bullied because I wouldn't be like the other children, I should try to fit in more.  Yeah, I took one look at that vile, cruel bunch and decided I was nothing and wanted to be nothing like them at all.  I got the degree, they got pregnant at 15.  Hmmm.... not fitting in did me no harm.

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  • Don't think it ever mattered to be.

    My old headmaster did once say to me that it was my fault I was bullied because I wouldn't be like the other children, I should try to fit in more.  Yeah, I took one look at that vile, cruel bunch and decided I was nothing and wanted to be nothing like them at all.  I got the degree, they got pregnant at 15.  Hmmm.... not fitting in did me no harm.

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  • in reply to Dawn

    Wow I cant believe a headmaster would say that! Although thinking about it actually I can, thats all school does is brainwash you to try to fit in. I guess in some ways Im glad I never went. 
    I certainly try and help my students to see through it and to realise that they dont have to be part of the system. Schooling in Sweden, Finland etc teaches kids to be individuals, school in the UK teaches them to be clones of each other. 
    Just another brick in the wall as Pink Floyd once said 

    Good for you for not fitting in though! Most of the people who do great things in life are people who refused to fit in with the crowd