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Stopping wanting to conform

Billy87

Question, at what point in your life did you stop caring about conforming to what everyone else was. At what point did trying to fit in and be like everyone else stop mattering to you, or is it something you still care about?

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  • In my mid-teens I realised that people were always going to find me weird whatever I did, so I just started doing it on purpose. It's nice to fit in because you're around people who share your interests, rather than because you're working hard to be 'normal', but these days I would rather just find those people.

    Most of the masking I've been doing this whole time is because I don't want to look rude, rather than not wanting to look weird. I know my need for certainty and clarity of language can come across to NT people as rudeness, and I know that my need for routine can come across to them as selfishness. Those are the things that I hide from them.

    But being Normal? Nah. Don't care.

  • in reply to battybats
    battybats said:
    I realised that people were always going to find me weird whatever I did, so I just started doing it on purpose

    I used to do that a lot when I was younger too. Subconciously I think, I knew I was going to stand out anyway so I thought I might as well do things on purpose to make me stand out 

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