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Stopping wanting to conform

Billy87

Question, at what point in your life did you stop caring about conforming to what everyone else was. At what point did trying to fit in and be like everyone else stop mattering to you, or is it something you still care about?

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  • Not sure exactly when, but it was at some point in my early childhood. I can remember wanting the same unicorn t-shirt that some other kids in my class had when I was 5 (we lived in the USA at the time) and not being allowed to have it. I thought that if I did, I would be their friend.  I worked out quite early on that I was the weirdo and just had no idea how to fit in, so I started to embrace the strange.  It helped that my dad taught me that it's okay to be different. 

    I was very lonely though, and it took a long time before I found other people who liked me just as I was but I did find them!  

    For me acceptance and connection is still important, but I refuse to conform to what other people think is "normal" to get it.  I try to be kind, but I am just myself.

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  • Not sure exactly when, but it was at some point in my early childhood. I can remember wanting the same unicorn t-shirt that some other kids in my class had when I was 5 (we lived in the USA at the time) and not being allowed to have it. I thought that if I did, I would be their friend.  I worked out quite early on that I was the weirdo and just had no idea how to fit in, so I started to embrace the strange.  It helped that my dad taught me that it's okay to be different. 

    I was very lonely though, and it took a long time before I found other people who liked me just as I was but I did find them!  

    For me acceptance and connection is still important, but I refuse to conform to what other people think is "normal" to get it.  I try to be kind, but I am just myself.

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