Neurodivergent Love Languages

Hello fellow autistic people! In case you didn’t know neurodivergent love languages are a popular and well known aspect of autistic culture on social media. I particularly love info dumping and deep pressure, parallel play. 

The 5 languages are:

  1. Info dumping- we do a lot of info dumping here.
  2. Parallel play/Body Doubling - sharing space together whilst doing different activities 
  3. Spoon Sharing/Support Swapping- sharing our energy 
  4. Please Crush My Soul Back Into My Body (deep pressure)
  5. Penguin Pebbling - sharing small gifts or memes with neurodivergent friends/family (usually related to dedicated interests)

I particularly like penguin pebbling with my autistic friend. I like to send them memes related to their dedicated interests.

Which language do you relate to most?

Here is an article that explains the languages in more depth:

https://stimpunks.org/2022/01/22/the-five-neurodivergent-love-languages-2/

I love this aspect of our autistic culture, I hope you find it interesting too!

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  • Ahhhhh! This explains everythingggggggg! Joy

    My main ones are:

    • Info dumping - on every and anything I learn! People often think I'm super chatty because of this (then get confused when I don't talk for ages or go silent).. but I have an intense need to share the information that I think is super important
    • Penguin Pebbling -  sharing memes specifically and if I see something related to what a friend or family member said they like.. I'll buy it as a gift. (I prefer gifting people this way than for Christmas and birthdays as it feels so forced
    • Parallel play/Body Doubling - sharing space together whilst doing different activities - as I'm writing this.. my partner is gaming and I'm just on my laptop.. we don't have to talk.. just the company is nice
  • Ahhhhh! This explains everythingggggggg! 

    A moment of realisation, these love languages are a huge part of autistic culture!

    ! People often think I'm super chatty because of this (then get confused when I don't talk for ages or go silent).. but I have an intense need to share the information that I think is super important

    What is your favourite topic to info dump about? I understand what you mean about people thinking you are super chatty, I only really become very chatty and animated when talking about my interests too.

    Of course the information is super important because it is related to one of your passions. NT’s don’t usually have the same urgency that we do when talking about passions.

    • Penguin Pebbling -  sharing memes specifically and if I see something related to what a friend or family member said they like.. I'll buy it as a gift. (I prefer gifting people this way than for Christmas and birthdays as it feels so forced

    I agree that Christmas and birthday gift giving feels forced, it is a social convention whereas penguin pebbling is spontaneous with no expectation.

    we don't have to talk.. just the company is nice

    Exactly!

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  • Ahhhhh! This explains everythingggggggg! 

    A moment of realisation, these love languages are a huge part of autistic culture!

    ! People often think I'm super chatty because of this (then get confused when I don't talk for ages or go silent).. but I have an intense need to share the information that I think is super important

    What is your favourite topic to info dump about? I understand what you mean about people thinking you are super chatty, I only really become very chatty and animated when talking about my interests too.

    Of course the information is super important because it is related to one of your passions. NT’s don’t usually have the same urgency that we do when talking about passions.

    • Penguin Pebbling -  sharing memes specifically and if I see something related to what a friend or family member said they like.. I'll buy it as a gift. (I prefer gifting people this way than for Christmas and birthdays as it feels so forced

    I agree that Christmas and birthday gift giving feels forced, it is a social convention whereas penguin pebbling is spontaneous with no expectation.

    we don't have to talk.. just the company is nice

    Exactly!

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