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Autism assessment

IndigoMandala

I posted not so long ago about my assessment. Could have been missed because I was banned for posting a link about squids Face palm‍♂️ 

anyway, I find out next week but my mum just basically said I was a normal kid. Despite not being and really struggling. I’m hoping the assessor seen through that but....I’ve been so angry. My other siblings didn’t struggle but I just got left behind without any help. I’m not sure if it was guilt on her part. It’s been a bad week but I spoke to my other brother who seen that I did struggle with things. The same things I struggle with now.

anyone else experienced this? 

  • in reply to Catlover

    That’s a great way of putting it and also some puts some perspective on my part trying to understand. Thanks for taking the time to post.

    I get my outcome tomorrow so we will see then.

  • Your mum probably thought you were just a normal child, because she saw you everyday, and you were always the same to her. Do you understand what I mean? ASD isn’t easy to spot, especially to someone who had never heard of Autism, or realised what it can look like in different people. I mean, god, I didn’t realise I was autistic until I was 46 lol.
    I spent nearly 6 years fighting for my daughter to get diagnosed and I still didn’t realise Laughing 

    When I asked my mum if she noticed anything different about me, she said she didn’t. When I went for my diagnosis, she wrote some things down about me as a child. She didn’t think they were Autistic traits, as she was like that herself as a child. She said I was quiet, I didn’t speak much, I was serious, I was clever, big vocabulary, shy, artistic, excellent memory, ordered, few friends, played alone etc. None of that stood out to her, but why would it when she was the same, and it was back in the early 70’s? 
    Of course, through my daughters diagnosis, and mine, my mum now realises she is also autistic and it’s been very eye opening for her, and she is learning about herself for the better.

  • in reply to Daisygirl

    Tha you for the reply as this is what happened. Also factor in ‘normal’ siblings.....do you think they will see that? I’m cool that I maybe have severe anxiety but I feel autism explains everything. Including the anxiety. It’s a tough one

  • I didn’t have a parent at my assessment. It was done with how I struggle now & my recollection of my childhood. When I had spoken to my mum recently about my past struggles, she remembered me enjoying going out, which isn’t how I remember it. 

    i also think sometimes parents don’t want to admit you were different as that would mean they had failed you & make them feel bad. 

  • .... Continued.

    I was just thought to be shy when I was little. As soon as I was old enough I realised that I had to mask to try to "fit in" as I felt so different from everyone else. So my siblings didn't realise what I was going through, they just thought, and still do, that I was "odd".

  • I was diagnosed as autistic last year at the age of 57. When my Mum filled in the form about my childhood she didn't indicate anything unusual, although I did manage to discover some behaviours which were a bit different when talking to her before my assessment. I think when they meet you for the assessment they can do it without the childhood history, as not everyone has someone to provide this.