Published on 12, July, 2020
My husband is a non diagnosed autistic person and he masks this all week at work.
When he is at home he just wants to hide in his office, he never comes out with me and the children, he won't visit places we want to visit because "everyone else is there" and he gets incredibly stressed and grumpy when it off his comfort zone so we just tend to leave him at home, however I feel like a single parent and I miss having someone to have adventures with.
I often wonder "what is the point" we sleep in separate rooms and although he says he loves me and I love him, it just doesn't feel like a "Normal relationship"
Can anyone offer any advice???
As the Autistic husband, I would say the best thing your husband can do is to have de-stress time. This might be difficult during the day but , if he ca, go fir a walk on his own or find somewhere quiet, even if it is fir a few minutes. Most important is time to himself when he gets home. I used to watch TV without speaking to my wife. I also take myself off to the kitchen to do the washing up and listen to a podcast. A further couple of hours in front of TV and I am ready to talk but not after we go to bed.
Hope this helps.