Published on 12, July, 2020
My husband is a non diagnosed autistic person and he masks this all week at work.
When he is at home he just wants to hide in his office, he never comes out with me and the children, he won't visit places we want to visit because "everyone else is there" and he gets incredibly stressed and grumpy when it off his comfort zone so we just tend to leave him at home, however I feel like a single parent and I miss having someone to have adventures with.
I often wonder "what is the point" we sleep in separate rooms and although he says he loves me and I love him, it just doesn't feel like a "Normal relationship"
Can anyone offer any advice???
Teaching is tough for most people and when you are (undiagnosed) autistic it's really tough. Personal experience and reflection is there's massive sensory overload each day from environment and interactions, plus a lot of transitioning and interruptions during the day without any time to pause. Autistic people are often perfectionists too. This added to the usual stress teachers have probably means the tank is empty quite early in the week. I realise now the social engagements I used to have at weekends mostly did nothing but further deplete this and were extra demands on top of every thing else. I don't have kids. Sorry I have no solutions but just wanted to share my experience.