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Just diagnosed and feel like I'm falling apart

RosieRosie

Hello all,

Thank you for all your kindness on my previous post. Assessment was done yesterday (with parents' involvement) and confirmed that I am autistic.

I had that rush of relief initially as I really didn't think the psychiatrist would agree, but I'm now completely overwhelmed and broken by it all. It's not helping that, out the four people who know, three have already said "I'm surprised you were diagnosed" / "Ah but we all feel this way, you must have it very mildly." I just want to scream in frustration and anger at that.

I feel like thirty years of trauma and realisation is hitting me all at once and I don't know who to turn to or what to do.

I was expecting to feel a bit all over the place after the assessment, but I'm really surprised at how strong this feeling is and it's scaring me a bit.

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  • I was diagnosed recently and I was also surprised that dealing with it was harder than I expected. I pretty much knew I was autistic (both my children already had a diagnosis and I’d done so much research about autism so that I could be a good parent to them so I soon realised I was autistic too). But it still threw me somehow to actually get the diagnosis. I think we just have to accept that it takes time to process these things. It triggers a lot of soul searching and makes us look back at our life so far and see some things differently. 
    I’m sorry it’s also been difficult for you. Give yourself the time and space to adjust - I’m sure that in the long run it will be positive for you. You’re not alone - people in this community really do understand.  Good luck with it all.

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  • I was diagnosed recently and I was also surprised that dealing with it was harder than I expected. I pretty much knew I was autistic (both my children already had a diagnosis and I’d done so much research about autism so that I could be a good parent to them so I soon realised I was autistic too). But it still threw me somehow to actually get the diagnosis. I think we just have to accept that it takes time to process these things. It triggers a lot of soul searching and makes us look back at our life so far and see some things differently. 
    I’m sorry it’s also been difficult for you. Give yourself the time and space to adjust - I’m sure that in the long run it will be positive for you. You’re not alone - people in this community really do understand.  Good luck with it all.

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