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Friend or no friend?

John

Hello all,

So there's a girl who goes to my youth club. She blocks me and then unblocks me on WhatsApp on no reason. I tried to confront her today about it on WhatsApp and she was very dismissive to me. I said blocking people isn't very nice because she says I'm her best friend and I send her photos of her hobbies on WhatsApp. Best friends don't block each other do they? She gets offended very easily if I do something she doesn't like.

Yet she texts me and calls me on WhatsApp every evening and tonight we need to make up? My friends are dealing with this and I'm very confused. Am I in the wrong because my friends said we need to make up. She says she wasn't harassing me. She gets offended very easily and I need answers very quickly.

What should I do and any suggestions would be appreciated? I've tried apologizing to her and she won't respond to me now.

Should I be her friend or not?

Thanks,

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  • It doesn't sound like she is behaving very nicely or considerately towards you. From what you have written here, it doesn't sound like you have anything to apologise about at all! It's up to you- you have to decide whether you want to tolerate her behaviour- and she has given no reason at all for the blocking? If you think it is worth it and you want to try and salvage the friendship, you could give her one last chance, explain to her again that the blocking/ unblocking all the time etc is upsetting and not very nice and see what happens. I am generally way too forgiving with people and it takes a long time for me to really cut contact with someone, even when they have repeatedly behaved unfairly towards me or even harassed me (I ended up being assaulted), I always think I'm the problem and I also believe in the best in people. I don't think that's necessarily bad and I like to give people enough chances, but I am coming to the conclusion that there are some people that I just don't need or want in my life. I am quite alone and that makes me even more vulnerable and more likely to forgive people and tolerate things. 

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  • It doesn't sound like she is behaving very nicely or considerately towards you. From what you have written here, it doesn't sound like you have anything to apologise about at all! It's up to you- you have to decide whether you want to tolerate her behaviour- and she has given no reason at all for the blocking? If you think it is worth it and you want to try and salvage the friendship, you could give her one last chance, explain to her again that the blocking/ unblocking all the time etc is upsetting and not very nice and see what happens. I am generally way too forgiving with people and it takes a long time for me to really cut contact with someone, even when they have repeatedly behaved unfairly towards me or even harassed me (I ended up being assaulted), I always think I'm the problem and I also believe in the best in people. I don't think that's necessarily bad and I like to give people enough chances, but I am coming to the conclusion that there are some people that I just don't need or want in my life. I am quite alone and that makes me even more vulnerable and more likely to forgive people and tolerate things. 

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