Endings

I recently returned to the city I grew up in and did a bit if a tourist run round it. It was fun. But I was aware of all the emotions and negative memories that were being stirred up there from childhood before I knew about ASC.

I had such tough times there and have struggled to put those struggles behind me.

Since returning to my current home I've been having nightmares, intense body spasms, and symptoms of depression again.

So on reflection I think it's the ending of old friendships that linger for me. Looking back I realise the ones I struggled with stuck with me, trapped in my core that seem to cause me pain and leave me wondering what happened.

Do you find that ending friendships is often weird, because there is no closure, they just drift away and you're left wondering why you no longer stay in touch?

Seems to be a common thing for me. Either that or I cut ties with people because I no longer trust they have good intentions.

Is this just how it goes, or is this a ND only experience I wonder?

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  • I don’t think this is especially an ND thing, it happens to most people for a myriad of reasons. Closure can indeed be hard, I see this in others and myself but perhaps because being an oldster with the experience this brings I’m ok at dealing with this now. People come and go in my life, sometimes they leave or drift, sometimes I leave or drift, and occasionally when my safety is at risk I ghost people. It’s just the way of the world

  • I agree mostly, but I think the ND part is the repeated cycling questioning that goes on. The 'why did it happen' etc that I think is specific to my ASC

  • I certainly ask the “why did it happen” question so often but given assorted other aspects of my identity I can pin it on them as much as my ASC. So today for instance I’m struggling to understand the latest email from my cousin in Japan, heading down that why and what spiral. It’s I think a relationship ending, the last remaining member of my family with whom I have contact, but to rob a concept from EUPD it is me “splitting” her! I’m not into “family” tbh and will be glad when they are all walked away and I’m safe 

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  • I certainly ask the “why did it happen” question so often but given assorted other aspects of my identity I can pin it on them as much as my ASC. So today for instance I’m struggling to understand the latest email from my cousin in Japan, heading down that why and what spiral. It’s I think a relationship ending, the last remaining member of my family with whom I have contact, but to rob a concept from EUPD it is me “splitting” her! I’m not into “family” tbh and will be glad when they are all walked away and I’m safe 

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