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Endings

JT

I recently returned to the city I grew up in and did a bit if a tourist run round it. It was fun. But I was aware of all the emotions and negative memories that were being stirred up there from childhood before I knew about ASC.

I had such tough times there and have struggled to put those struggles behind me.

Since returning to my current home I've been having nightmares, intense body spasms, and symptoms of depression again.

So on reflection I think it's the ending of old friendships that linger for me. Looking back I realise the ones I struggled with stuck with me, trapped in my core that seem to cause me pain and leave me wondering what happened.

Do you find that ending friendships is often weird, because there is no closure, they just drift away and you're left wondering why you no longer stay in touch?

Seems to be a common thing for me. Either that or I cut ties with people because I no longer trust they have good intentions.

Is this just how it goes, or is this a ND only experience I wonder?

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  • JT said:
    Do you find that ending friendships is often weird, because there is no closure, they just drift away and you're left wondering why you no longer stay in touch?

    Yes. I'm wondering this all the time. Why didn't we stay in touch? Was it me? Do they dislike people with autism? I don't have many friends. I haven't had many friends but the ones I did and drifted in to nothing I wonder why we didn't stay in touch.

    I cut ties with people sometimes but normally it's the other way round. I think people just suddenly don't like me anymore.

    I don't think NTs give it much thought. Whereas I'm really pleased to have a friend to them I think they don't really care all that much.

  • in reply to Trisha

    Same feeling for me yes. I think, being highly sensitive, that I feel much more deeply when I do become friends with people so, if it drifts, I then take it very personally when in fact its probably just the way it goes and they have their own wants and needs.

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