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Trans and autistic?

ELMD72

I feel like I have been masking my entire life until now. I’m not diagnosed and with everything else that is happening right now it will wait a bit longer. 
I identify as a transgender man, queer (have had relationships with both sexes) and now am coming to terms with autism as well.  I’ve had to hide my identity, feelings and emotions since I was a child, mostly because I have had issues with my Dad since a teenager when I initially came out as lesbian. I’m feeling very angry at the moment which isn’t helped by my testosterone treatment which I have just started. Can anyone relate to this? Thank you 

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  • Not on any new hormones, but very much relate to being angry about being repressed for so long. If a parent would say "we don't care if it's a boy or a girl as long as it's healthy and happy" then they don't get to put terms and conditions on that now or in that kid's future. So the anger is very much a grief stage from being lied to, told you are loved unconditionally but then finding out that isn't actually the case, because then you lose people you thought you knew, and they've been replaced by hypocrites who failed the responsibility they placed upon themselves of accepting you "whichever way you turn out".

    Don't worry it gets better tho.

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  • Not on any new hormones, but very much relate to being angry about being repressed for so long. If a parent would say "we don't care if it's a boy or a girl as long as it's healthy and happy" then they don't get to put terms and conditions on that now or in that kid's future. So the anger is very much a grief stage from being lied to, told you are loved unconditionally but then finding out that isn't actually the case, because then you lose people you thought you knew, and they've been replaced by hypocrites who failed the responsibility they placed upon themselves of accepting you "whichever way you turn out".

    Don't worry it gets better tho.

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