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Huge anxiety around parent-involvement in upcoming assessment

RosieRosie

Hello all,

As above, really. Anyone here been through the assessment process as an adult with their parents involved? What did that process look like for you?

I am being assessed soon as a nearly 30 y/o and was told that my parents will have to be a part of the process, which I'm really stressed and worried about. 

My life with my family has been one of them minimising almost every emotion or reaction I've had, so I'm not convinced that they are going to be of much help. They have always wanted me to ascribe to some level of normal so I don't know whether they are going to go into the assessment and pretend I was absolutely fine to 'save face' or (and I personally hope for this reaction) have a kind of cathartic chance to say "Yes, she did that and it was embarrassing and we didn't know what to do". 

The other element of this is whether the three of us will have to be in the same room for the whole process? Surely not?! I know for certain I will not give truthful answers or responses to whatever the assessment involves if they are in the room. All I was told is that we all need to attend in person at the same time and my brain can't handle that level of vagueness!

Thanks in advance

Parents

  • Lots of people have had diagnoses without any parental involvement, for example people whose parents are no longer around or are estranged.  I can't imagine sitting in a room discussing my childhood with my parents either.  My mum also sort of suggested she would feel awkward about this too.  I am still trying to get an assessment but am hoping they can just send my mum a questionnaire and she can complete it and post it to them.  If you say that it isn't possible to do as they have asked, there should be an alternative.  

  • in reply to Jay

    That's what I had thought too! I took a look through the forum and saw many late-diagnosed adults had their assessment done this way so I don't know why the service is insisting like this – particularly as they know me and my family don't see eye-to-eye on anything mental health/ASD related. I was rather hoping they'd just get a paper questionnaire in the post as you say/

    I wish you all the very very best in accessing an assessment by the way, I'm sorry the system is so arduous

  • in reply to RosieRosie

    thank you, I hope things work out for you too.

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