“Everyone is on the spectrum somewhere” Needs to stop being said!

I completely feel what you're going through. The best response to correct these others I've found is to quote Lacan mid last century, "Let me correct you. You mean, we're all a little Neurotic"

In these instances, it can be best to use the term NeuroDivergent, as diverging from the expected norm. While Diverse was originally found as a good phrase to help everyone understand brain-diversity exists, it's now really just a term to mean we're ALL a little different and personally I find it moves everyone back to zero at 'equal and different'. And it can be nearly impossible to try and tell Neurotic individuals "I'm different" and there's a psychoanalytic reason why.

Neurotic was the original term to describe Normal - or Typical. It wasn't a bad word. It implied this need for tribal connexion where one needs to belong to the extent they can be overly anxious about not fitting in. Even paranoid. Paranoid to the degree that Empathy is the lifeline to stay connected. And that connexion is more important than Truth. It was originally suggested that this is the reason one can 'filter out unwanted sense-perception', as part of maturing, an aspect of Sublimation. Essentially, the Typical brain will have the 'motherboard' and the correct frequency to receive free auto-downloads within society's current framework. These subliminal codes essentially write the 'rules' into one neural centre. From there, they can mask quickly, without thinking, and be rewarded by how they operate and 'fit in'. There's a frustrating part to this and here's how it affects us.

Essentially everyone masks. But the Neurotic gets a little reward-hit for it. A star. Because they're not guessing how to do it. They speak the same code. Unfortunately, it's a little too much of an Auto-operation and in Todays society, where individuality is more dominant than ever, where Adverts work because they know the Neurotic has difficulty dislodging themselves from what's Typical, there is a push for something that's uniquely Me. Mine. My latte, my way. My [insert store name], even My Covid and so on. Everyone needs their story. Everyone wants their voice to be heard. And simultaneously these everyones are being ghosted and stonewalled my major corporations and companies who are only looking to turn them into Data. It's a bit messed up.

I think most people feel this somewhere in the back of their head: They're automatically just going along with the crowd > Told to stand out be unique > stuck with 'codes' that won't allow them to be too unique > turned back into data by society, absorbed back into the crowd. So desperate to be 'authentic' and unique and seeing anyone else trying to be unique as a bit rebellious but believes it's all part of the programme.

That same Neurotic code literally involves attempting to fix a thing by intentionally misdirecting the problem. This is absolute chaos if you ask me and there's hundreds of years analysing this stuff! The neurotic brain has these hyper-focused and strengthened neural wires in areas responsible for language and signs (semiotics). So let's say someone has a problem with counting a till. The manager will reinforce they can do this by saying "I know you can do this, you just need to apply effort" and giving them a cookie. Let's suppose for the argument, they are perfectly typical, no added disabilities, that's the code they needed. Nothing to do with math. Just a type of hypnosis. 

Where I find this leaves me is 1. Having to really thoughtfully process and research before having a discussion with someone because I cannot do it as a flash improv, so booking an appointment. 2. Appealing to hard ethics. The only place I've found we can all agree is when I manage to explain the system behind a problem with communication (let's say) and why it matters and doesn't work. I can't read minds, for example. 

Throughout my 20's I was let go from so many jobs for being autistic - only I didn't know. I didn't know I had such incredible problems with language and couldn't assess vocabulary. I didn't know I wasn't fitting in and couldn't mind read or what others meant when they expressed I was too out-of-the-box. I didn't know I was breaking down daily, overwhelmed... isn't everyone just trying to keep afloat? I didn't know I was sense-perceiving beyond what others had dulled their senses to or accidentally saying what no one else would say and that there was a reason no one was going to say it. 

Being Autistic isn't like having a toothache or having a tumour or having an extra set of toys. It's simply a different type of human BE-ing. It's a difference like Right brained thinking vs Left which everyone seems to be OK with, only the fundamental differences create a moral problem in modern society. They didn't always. But this is the key to find in order to fight back. Some friends of mine have been ok with my explaining that it 'turns out I'm on the spectrum" - a few have said, oh, that makes sense (because they only understand the term Spectrum while Autistic for them equates with Downs). The process to understanding this is seemingly a Really Massive Undertaking for the world. There are a few reasons but one of the worst is because the Neurotic believes it's just an 'excuse'.  this woman talks a lot about these problems with possibly more clarity than I can :) https://www.instagram.com/thearticulateautistic/

*didn't mean to be so long. But I feel a deep sense of injustice with this.

I completely feel what you're going through. The best response to correct these others I've found is to quote Lacan mid last century, "Let me correct you. You mean, we're all a little Neurotic"

In these instances, it can be best to use the term NeuroDivergent, as diverging from the expected norm. While Diverse was originally found as a good phrase to help everyone understand brain-diversity exists, it's now really just a term to mean we're ALL a little different and personally I find it moves everyone back to zero at 'equal and different'. And it can be nearly impossible to try and tell Neurotic individuals "I'm different" and there's a psychoanalytic reason why.

Neurotic was the original term to describe Normal - or Typical. It wasn't a bad word. It implied this need for tribal connexion where one needs to belong to the extent they can be overly anxious about not fitting in. Even paranoid. Paranoid to the degree that Empathy is the lifeline to stay connected. And that connexion is more important than Truth. It was originally suggested that this is the reason one can 'filter out unwanted sense-perception', as part of maturing, an aspect of Sublimation. Essentially, the Typical brain will have the 'motherboard' and the correct frequency to receive free auto-downloads within society's current framework. These subliminal codes essentially write the 'rules' into one neural centre. From there, they can mask quickly, without thinking, and be rewarded by how they operate and 'fit in'. There's a frustrating part to this and here's how it affects us.

Essentially everyone masks. But the Neurotic gets a little reward-hit for it. A star. Because they're not guessing how to do it. They speak the same code. Unfortunately, it's a little too much of an Auto-operation and in Todays society, where individuality is more dominant than ever, where Adverts work because they know the Neurotic has difficulty dislodging themselves from what's Typical, there is a push for something that's uniquely Me. Mine. My latte, my way. My [insert store name], even My Covid and so on. Everyone needs their story. Everyone wants their voice to be heard. And simultaneously these everyones are being ghosted and stonewalled my major corporations and companies who are only looking to turn them into Data. It's a bit messed up.

I think most people feel this somewhere in the back of their head: They're automatically just going along with the crowd > Told to stand out be unique > stuck with 'codes' that won't allow them to be too unique > turned back into data by society, absorbed back into the crowd. So desperate to be 'authentic' and unique and seeing anyone else trying to be unique as a bit rebellious but believes it's all part of the programme.

That same Neurotic code literally involves attempting to fix a thing by intentionally misdirecting the problem. This is absolute chaos if you ask me and there's hundreds of years analysing this stuff! The neurotic brain has these hyper-focused and strengthened neural wires in areas responsible for language and signs (semiotics). So let's say someone has a problem with counting a till. The manager will reinforce they can do this by saying "I know you can do this, you just need to apply effort" and giving them a cookie. Let's suppose for the argument, they are perfectly typical, no added disabilities, that's the code they needed. Nothing to do with math. Just a type of hypnosis. 

Where I find this leaves me is 1. Having to really thoughtfully process and research before having a discussion with someone because I cannot do it as a flash improv, so booking an appointment. 2. Appealing to hard ethics. The only place I've found we can all agree is when I manage to explain the system behind a problem with communication (let's say) and why it matters and doesn't work. I can't read minds, for example. 

Throughout my 20's I was let go from so many jobs for being autistic - only I didn't know. I didn't know I had such incredible problems with language and couldn't assess vocabulary. I didn't know I wasn't fitting in and couldn't mind read or what others meant when they expressed I was too out-of-the-box. I didn't know I was breaking down daily, overwhelmed... isn't everyone just trying to keep afloat? I didn't know I was sense-perceiving beyond what others had dulled their senses to or accidentally saying what no one else would say and that there was a reason no one was going to say it. 

Being Autistic isn't like having a toothache or having a tumour or having an extra set of toys. It's simply a different type of human BE-ing. It's a difference like Right brained thinking vs Left which everyone seems to be OK with, only the fundamental differences create a moral problem in modern society. They didn't always. But this is the key to find in order to fight back. Some friends of mine have been ok with my explaining that it 'turns out I'm on the spectrum" - a few have said, oh, that makes sense (because they only understand the term Spectrum while Autistic for them equates with Downs). The process to understanding this is seemingly a Really Massive Undertaking for the world. There are a few reasons but one of the worst is because the Neurotic believes it's just an 'excuse'.  this woman talks a lot about these problems with possibly more clarity than I can :) https://www.instagram.com/thearticulateautistic/

*didn't mean to be so long. But I feel a deep sense of injustice with this.