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Do NT and ND speak different languages?

Homebird

Sometimes a NT will ask me something and I don't understand what they are asking or misinterpret it. 

Then the opposite way around I will ask a question so I can make suitable adjustments personally if needed and it can be seen as criticism, because the reason for asking is not understood. 

I am trying to work out if this is simply a communication problem I have or it is to do with the different way a NT brain works.

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  • I have found this too! Because I can only deal in certainties, to avoid misunderstandings, I repeat what I have said in a different way to ensure I've been understood correctly. It drives the NT lot barmy. If I don't do it, I can't understand what they mean....You can't win!

    I did have a breakthrough the other day though....A friend said they would call me at 10 am. I took this literally, as how else was I to take it. When they didn't call, I got really upset, and now we have agreed that in future, they will say they will call at ABOUT 10 am, but if something crops up, then it might be later. This seems to work.

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  • I have found this too! Because I can only deal in certainties, to avoid misunderstandings, I repeat what I have said in a different way to ensure I've been understood correctly. It drives the NT lot barmy. If I don't do it, I can't understand what they mean....You can't win!

    I did have a breakthrough the other day though....A friend said they would call me at 10 am. I took this literally, as how else was I to take it. When they didn't call, I got really upset, and now we have agreed that in future, they will say they will call at ABOUT 10 am, but if something crops up, then it might be later. This seems to work.

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  • in reply to friendoffelines

    I have this with telephone appointments. I had some CBT support at the beginning of the pandemic. On the first call she was late which made me very anxious as I had prepared myself for it.

    Maybe my experience has helped others, as if I have to call someone back at work I try to keep to the time as far as possible, but always explain it may not be exactly.