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Do NT and ND speak different languages?

Homebird

Sometimes a NT will ask me something and I don't understand what they are asking or misinterpret it. 

Then the opposite way around I will ask a question so I can make suitable adjustments personally if needed and it can be seen as criticism, because the reason for asking is not understood. 

I am trying to work out if this is simply a communication problem I have or it is to do with the different way a NT brain works.

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  • I think we do use language differently. I'm usually fine with metaphor and humour, but sometimes I can't work out if someone is joking or not, or I know they're joking, but don't have a clue what the joke actually is.

    In recent years my communication with my father has got very bad, as he's taken to going off on digressions or jumping from topic to topic and I get confused, particularly as he often starts with a long and irrelevant prologue which I assume is going to be the focus of the communication, but it rarely is. Unfortunately, my mind fixates on the prologue and can't move on to the main topic. I think he struggles with my speech sometimes too, but I'm not sure why. This has led to a degree of mutual tension and frustration between us that I regret, but do not know how to deal with. I've tried explaining this to him, but to no avail, as he accepts my autism, but doesn't really understand it. I'm hoping to watch the Chris Packham autism documentary with my parents at some point in the hope that this might help them understand me better.

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  • I think we do use language differently. I'm usually fine with metaphor and humour, but sometimes I can't work out if someone is joking or not, or I know they're joking, but don't have a clue what the joke actually is.

    In recent years my communication with my father has got very bad, as he's taken to going off on digressions or jumping from topic to topic and I get confused, particularly as he often starts with a long and irrelevant prologue which I assume is going to be the focus of the communication, but it rarely is. Unfortunately, my mind fixates on the prologue and can't move on to the main topic. I think he struggles with my speech sometimes too, but I'm not sure why. This has led to a degree of mutual tension and frustration between us that I regret, but do not know how to deal with. I've tried explaining this to him, but to no avail, as he accepts my autism, but doesn't really understand it. I'm hoping to watch the Chris Packham autism documentary with my parents at some point in the hope that this might help them understand me better.

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