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Do NT and ND speak different languages?

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Sometimes a NT will ask me something and I don't understand what they are asking or misinterpret it. 

Then the opposite way around I will ask a question so I can make suitable adjustments personally if needed and it can be seen as criticism, because the reason for asking is not understood. 

I am trying to work out if this is simply a communication problem I have or it is to do with the different way a NT brain works.

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  • A Field Guide for Earthlings talks about this. Historically, philosophers have examined this as 2 different approaches to experiencing and relating with the world, I've categorised them as the difference between using language for Function vs Meaning.

    It's one of the main "bio-markers" or traits which differentiate Autism from NT.

    I've found after a painstaking amount of years, if I can remember NTs use words to command or dominate (like some kind of magic spell), when there's confusion, I just make sure to add a form of "light sadness", so I don't appear too confrontational. But just pausing to contain the intensity (this also takes an eye-rolling amount of practice) actually helps produce a response I want without their inability to frame everything within some moral framework. 

    In short: YES. 

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  • A Field Guide for Earthlings talks about this. Historically, philosophers have examined this as 2 different approaches to experiencing and relating with the world, I've categorised them as the difference between using language for Function vs Meaning.

    It's one of the main "bio-markers" or traits which differentiate Autism from NT.

    I've found after a painstaking amount of years, if I can remember NTs use words to command or dominate (like some kind of magic spell), when there's confusion, I just make sure to add a form of "light sadness", so I don't appear too confrontational. But just pausing to contain the intensity (this also takes an eye-rolling amount of practice) actually helps produce a response I want without their inability to frame everything within some moral framework. 

    In short: YES. 

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