Do NT and ND speak different languages?

Sometimes a NT will ask me something and I don't understand what they are asking or misinterpret it. 

Then the opposite way around I will ask a question so I can make suitable adjustments personally if needed and it can be seen as criticism, because the reason for asking is not understood. 

I am trying to work out if this is simply a communication problem I have or it is to do with the different way a NT brain works.

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  • A Field Guide for Earthlings talks about this. Historically, philosophers have examined this as 2 different approaches to experiencing and relating with the world, which I describe as the difference between Function and Meaning.

    It seems the NT brain has this design with it's synaptic pruning to create hyper-connexions in the lobes/areas responsible for language/semiotics (symbols) so words can have this sort of magic and mysticalness. A sort of theatrics with words to create Meaning. Autistics tend to use language as a Function, sensing meaning in the environment around if they're not overwhelmed by it.

    I often find myself re-thinking mid sentence or just before I respond to another now. I've found the most important thing to remember is everything said can be used or recieved as a form of command or dominance. The only way around this (when there seems to be confusion) is to try and express my responsibly within the framework of the question in a way that suggests a very light sadness, like the light sadness of a show you loved being cancelled or a fun moment from childhood you won't be able to relive. And it takes a moment to conjure up this kind of expression of 'light sadness' - a full breath. a pause. a hum or sigh. a remembering the sort of intensity I need not exhibit. I don't make this kind of effort for everyone, but when it matters. Over time, people begin to understand who I am through my expression of values: reliability, kindness, generosity, etc. Building few and specific key relationships seems the only way to prove our intent.

    The short answer is YES. And this is one of the key differences between Autism and ADHD internally (besides our neuro-friends appearing from a completely other dimension of time and seeming to only need half the amount of sleep! LOL)

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  • A Field Guide for Earthlings talks about this. Historically, philosophers have examined this as 2 different approaches to experiencing and relating with the world, which I describe as the difference between Function and Meaning.

    It seems the NT brain has this design with it's synaptic pruning to create hyper-connexions in the lobes/areas responsible for language/semiotics (symbols) so words can have this sort of magic and mysticalness. A sort of theatrics with words to create Meaning. Autistics tend to use language as a Function, sensing meaning in the environment around if they're not overwhelmed by it.

    I often find myself re-thinking mid sentence or just before I respond to another now. I've found the most important thing to remember is everything said can be used or recieved as a form of command or dominance. The only way around this (when there seems to be confusion) is to try and express my responsibly within the framework of the question in a way that suggests a very light sadness, like the light sadness of a show you loved being cancelled or a fun moment from childhood you won't be able to relive. And it takes a moment to conjure up this kind of expression of 'light sadness' - a full breath. a pause. a hum or sigh. a remembering the sort of intensity I need not exhibit. I don't make this kind of effort for everyone, but when it matters. Over time, people begin to understand who I am through my expression of values: reliability, kindness, generosity, etc. Building few and specific key relationships seems the only way to prove our intent.

    The short answer is YES. And this is one of the key differences between Autism and ADHD internally (besides our neuro-friends appearing from a completely other dimension of time and seeming to only need half the amount of sleep! LOL)

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