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Lost please help

Seejai

After years of mental health issues I've recently come to realise I'm probably autistic. Reading a few books it's like coming face to face with my life story and the tests I've done say the same thing.

I'm not doing too well at the moment and I've got nobody to turn to. Could really do with some advice please?

How do I know if this is me being crazy or I'm actually on the spectrum? I know that formal diagnosis would be really hard to get but I'm worried I'm not doing the right things to manage myself. What did anyone else do?

I'm really struggling right now - keep getting overwhelmed (can't speak or think), emotions all over the place, poor sleep, more sensitive to sound and light, can only manage the basics day to day, avoiding people, suicidal. It doesn't feel like I'm depressed though. I try to keep my exercise and coping stuff going but I'm not getting better. Any tips?

I've read about burnout and how masking makes it more likely, but although I'm conscious I'm a pretend version of me in public, I've been doing it so long I wouldn't have a clue what the real me was. I'm hoping it's not the one that sits at home alone crying. Where do I even start?

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  • Hello and welcome to the community.

    I am certainly not claiming to have advice but I will share my train of thought with you in the hopes that you might find it useful.

    You are not crazy, you feel different and you believe that how you feel can be explained through ASD. You know yourself better than your GP most likely so whether you get an assessment or not, make an educated guess that you are who you think you are.

    There is a lot to untangle during your journey of self discovery and it is overwhelming in addition to the already overwhelming day to day life, so don't try to fix everything all at once, you are still human and you owe it to yourself to accept and be kind to yourself, so start small and focus.

    What is the one thing I can control and fix tonight, perhaps a good night sleep?, Try some breathing exercises to help you do that. You will rest, your mind will get the time it needs to recharge and start processing everything one at a time not all at once, and if you can't fix one problem, try the next or try asking for help (as you have done in this post!)

    You are certainly not alone and I wish you all the strength that you need to emerge whole from the other side.

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  • Hello and welcome to the community.

    I am certainly not claiming to have advice but I will share my train of thought with you in the hopes that you might find it useful.

    You are not crazy, you feel different and you believe that how you feel can be explained through ASD. You know yourself better than your GP most likely so whether you get an assessment or not, make an educated guess that you are who you think you are.

    There is a lot to untangle during your journey of self discovery and it is overwhelming in addition to the already overwhelming day to day life, so don't try to fix everything all at once, you are still human and you owe it to yourself to accept and be kind to yourself, so start small and focus.

    What is the one thing I can control and fix tonight, perhaps a good night sleep?, Try some breathing exercises to help you do that. You will rest, your mind will get the time it needs to recharge and start processing everything one at a time not all at once, and if you can't fix one problem, try the next or try asking for help (as you have done in this post!)

    You are certainly not alone and I wish you all the strength that you need to emerge whole from the other side.

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