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Do you think it's ok to ask my parents if i can call them by their names instead of mum and dad?

Jamie

I've been thinking about doing this for sometime as since my mother has retired i think she has been using me to give herself a sense of purpose (cooking meals i didn't ask for, wanting to meet every day when i don't want to for example).For some reason i feel really uncomfortable calling her mum as i feel like i'm reinforcing her role as a mother when i've never felt particularly close to her. Has anyone made this change who could give advice on how to go about it? 

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  • Sadly my birth mother died when I was young teenager, and my father died in autumn of last year. 
    He re-married so calling my step mother by her name was natural, I did address my father by his name from that point in time. 

  • in reply to Bodhisattva- neil
    Bodhisattva- neil said:
    Sadly my birth mother died when I was young teenager, and my father died in autumn of last year. 

    Sorry to hear that. 

    For some reason i never say Hi Mum on text messages...i'll just put hi or hello. I asked for space from them about 6 weeks ago which has helped enormously but mothers day is coming up and i'm hesitant and unsure what to do about it. After realizing im autistic in December i've started paying more attention to things in every aspect of my life pretty much, stuff that i would do because it was the done thing

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  • in reply to Bodhisattva- neil
    Bodhisattva- neil said:
    Sadly my birth mother died when I was young teenager, and my father died in autumn of last year. 

    Sorry to hear that. 

    For some reason i never say Hi Mum on text messages...i'll just put hi or hello. I asked for space from them about 6 weeks ago which has helped enormously but mothers day is coming up and i'm hesitant and unsure what to do about it. After realizing im autistic in December i've started paying more attention to things in every aspect of my life pretty much, stuff that i would do because it was the done thing

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