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How to disclose at work.

Rai

Hi all,

I'm currently on placement as part of my degree and I am trying to figure out how to disclose. I am finding the environment very stressful as it's constantly changing, very loud and very bright. I want to continue this work but it's taking it's toll. I have to do a self assessment as part of the related assignment and I am using this to understand my reactions and behaviour from a theoretical standpoint. 

I have realised that I can probably avoid feeling the way I'm feeling right now by disclosing and I have written the assignment with a plan to disclose. The third part of the assignment will be post disclosure, but I have no idea how to actually do it. If I'm honest, they probably already know but that doesn't stop me from feeling very anxious about it as I risk being seen differently. I get really hung up on being seen as less intelligent than I am because of abuse in the past. 

My questions are:

How do I disclose? (I have been there two months now)

How do I not make it less than it is? (This is my usual method but I need the support and understanding)

How do I get over the feeling of defeat relating to disclosure?

I'd really appreciate any input, suggestions or stories of your own experiences. 

Thank you Relaxed️

Parents

  • Im still at school but i think disclosure will be a big step 4 u. If you decide to then it needs to be to someone you trust someone who wont abuse this and treat u differently. I disclosed at school and it was horrible got treated real badly and it lasted a long time

    I hope u have more success if u decide to

  • in reply to Pookie

    Thank you Pookie, this is my worry. The organisation I work for is an LGBTQ+ inclusive church and community hub so I think I'll be ok. I just don't know who to disclose to because I am kind of (in my head) admitting a weakness and inability to cope with things that I should be (this was embedded during my marriage). 

    I thought that maybe I could ask my manager to proof read my assignment then I might not have to have a conversation, but this seems silly. Arghhh why is this so difficult lol

  • in reply to Rai

    they sound understanding so I think ur be ok disclosing to them. It will probably be a huge weight of your mind to when u say. 

    askin ur manager to proof read isn't silly. If it held u then that's all that matters.

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