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How to disclose at work.

Rai

Hi all,

I'm currently on placement as part of my degree and I am trying to figure out how to disclose. I am finding the environment very stressful as it's constantly changing, very loud and very bright. I want to continue this work but it's taking it's toll. I have to do a self assessment as part of the related assignment and I am using this to understand my reactions and behaviour from a theoretical standpoint. 

I have realised that I can probably avoid feeling the way I'm feeling right now by disclosing and I have written the assignment with a plan to disclose. The third part of the assignment will be post disclosure, but I have no idea how to actually do it. If I'm honest, they probably already know but that doesn't stop me from feeling very anxious about it as I risk being seen differently. I get really hung up on being seen as less intelligent than I am because of abuse in the past. 

My questions are:

How do I disclose? (I have been there two months now)

How do I not make it less than it is? (This is my usual method but I need the support and understanding)

How do I get over the feeling of defeat relating to disclosure?

I'd really appreciate any input, suggestions or stories of your own experiences. 

Thank you Relaxed️

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  • Im still at school but i think disclosure will be a big step 4 u. If you decide to then it needs to be to someone you trust someone who wont abuse this and treat u differently. I disclosed at school and it was horrible got treated real badly and it lasted a long time

    I hope u have more success if u decide to

  • in reply to Pookie

    Thank you Pookie, this is my worry. The organisation I work for is an LGBTQ+ inclusive church and community hub so I think I'll be ok. I just don't know who to disclose to because I am kind of (in my head) admitting a weakness and inability to cope with things that I should be (this was embedded during my marriage). 

    I thought that maybe I could ask my manager to proof read my assignment then I might not have to have a conversation, but this seems silly. Arghhh why is this so difficult lol

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  • in reply to Pookie

    Thank you Pookie, this is my worry. The organisation I work for is an LGBTQ+ inclusive church and community hub so I think I'll be ok. I just don't know who to disclose to because I am kind of (in my head) admitting a weakness and inability to cope with things that I should be (this was embedded during my marriage). 

    I thought that maybe I could ask my manager to proof read my assignment then I might not have to have a conversation, but this seems silly. Arghhh why is this so difficult lol

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  • in reply to Rai

    they sound understanding so I think ur be ok disclosing to them. It will probably be a huge weight of your mind to when u say. 

    askin ur manager to proof read isn't silly. If it held u then that's all that matters.

  • in reply to Joe

    Thank you Joe! The organisation is likely to be supportive and there have been a few miscommunications that could have been avoided by people saying what they mean. I'm also part of the research team to do with the project so I am there for a year minimum so I really need something's in place. For example the project space was moved without notice and I did not cope well - especially when I was told that I needed to stay in that room (I kept needing to escape the noise, people and lighting lol). 

    The other person from the uni who works with me is aware of the autism, but not how it affects me as I always brush it off. I'm thinking I should have a conversation with him and then work out how to speak to the organisation staff themselves. 

    I'm sure it will go well. I'm just really paranoid. I think they have an idea anyway I just need to get it out so I can stop the should I shouldn't I thing that going on in my head.

    Thank you for your advice!

  • in reply to Rai

    It sounds like the type of organisation that should be understanding and supportive.  I told people at my work starting with my manager, then close colleagues, last week I went the whole shebang and just posted a blog.  I'm not trying to make it a thing, I just want everyone to know rather than have that "do I tell them, do I not" feeling. Appreciate that isn't for everyone.

    You mention about struggling with the environment - are there things that your manager could do to help make it easier for you?  If so, I'd be tempted to start by telling them, if they're any good then hopefully, they should ask what they can do to support you.  The other consideration possibly, is that it's a placement, so it's not forever, but you want to get the best out of it.  I don't know if your college/uni know, but if they do and the people did react badly, then they should look to place you somewhere else where people are more supportive.

    Fingers crossed it all goes well for you.