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Friendships - how do you do it?

Morganna Le Faye

Hi all, 

I'm recently diagnosed and starting to understand why I've struggled with friendships and social situations in life - but understanding this doesn't change anything.  The social 'deficits' are still there and knowing isn't going to suddenly make me a social butterfly.  So what now?  

Do I just resign myself to a life without meaningful friendships?  Stop trying.

Do people with autism find it easier to befriend others on the spectrum?

What have others done?  Any suggestions? 

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  • Hi Morganna

    I've never really found much benefit from having friends, maybe because I've never felt able to be open with anyone about anything! So, I don't really go looking for friendships at all to be honest.  I have a wife and daughter and work with others so am not alone at all although I do really love being alone when I can.  I do obviously get something from online communications on a few forums like this one however.  Sometimes, it feels more like a diary that talks back which sounds weird when i write it down.  That being said, I like people and love talking to strangers when I'm feeling confident.  

    It's more about relationships than platonic friendships but have you watched 'Love on the Spectrum'?  It was great and really interesting about how autistic people relate to each other and can really support each other.  There was one particularly amazing and inspirational couple, Jimmy and Sharnae.

    Full disclosure, I don't know if I'm autistic, I'm just asking for assessment at the moment having had lots of indications that I am over many years.

    Jay

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  • Hi Morganna

    I've never really found much benefit from having friends, maybe because I've never felt able to be open with anyone about anything! So, I don't really go looking for friendships at all to be honest.  I have a wife and daughter and work with others so am not alone at all although I do really love being alone when I can.  I do obviously get something from online communications on a few forums like this one however.  Sometimes, it feels more like a diary that talks back which sounds weird when i write it down.  That being said, I like people and love talking to strangers when I'm feeling confident.  

    It's more about relationships than platonic friendships but have you watched 'Love on the Spectrum'?  It was great and really interesting about how autistic people relate to each other and can really support each other.  There was one particularly amazing and inspirational couple, Jimmy and Sharnae.

    Full disclosure, I don't know if I'm autistic, I'm just asking for assessment at the moment having had lots of indications that I am over many years.

    Jay

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