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Do your friends and loved ones know your identity in this place?

Deleted User

I like to fly under the radar wherever possible - less attention = less stress.

I value anonymity.  I am debating whether to share my identity in this place with my nearest and dearest.

Do the folk from these pages share their identity here with their significant others so they can be "looked up" and their posts read?

A simple Yes or No would be gratefully received, but further reasoning would be especially welcomed.

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  • No but we have to remember it is a public forum. i hope no one has worked me out.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Me too.  I am a little more paranoid that most....perhaps.  it is actually those OTHER than my neatest and dearest finding my thoughts on here that concerns me the most.  I would definitely not wish for that.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    There's nothing on here I wouldn't say to the people who know me well altho i do tend to overshare on here. I also think it'd be an eye opener. I also know they are probably not things that anyone I know would find interesting. I think a lot of people don't over analyse themselves like I or maybe other autistic people do. They don't need to go on forums to work themselves out. They don't need clarification from others about their experiences. 

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Exactly.

    Facing the truth isn't all hardness and disadvantage, It seems to make it easier to be happy with ones self, and make you end up surrounded by the people who can "take it" without melting down.

    I used to need people to tell me I was O.K. Now I don't. I know where I'm O.K. and where I need to do work. And that massive workload will keep me busy until I die. It's my one job.

  • in reply to I Sperg
    I Sperg said:
    Those sad people caught up in currents of mendacity, and fear of discovery, trying desperately to cobble together a fractured and compartmented reality I feel so sorry for

    Well - that's me chap - to a large degree.  50+ years of not knowing who the blazes I am = mendacious attitude towards oneself is a kind of inevitability?.......but I do feel sorry for myself about it (and for those around me on this crazy journey too.)   Thankfully, I think my core character has survived the obfuscations, but more importantly, that core character isn't as horrific as I feared it could have been.

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  • in reply to I Sperg
    I Sperg said:
    Those sad people caught up in currents of mendacity, and fear of discovery, trying desperately to cobble together a fractured and compartmented reality I feel so sorry for

    Well - that's me chap - to a large degree.  50+ years of not knowing who the blazes I am = mendacious attitude towards oneself is a kind of inevitability?.......but I do feel sorry for myself about it (and for those around me on this crazy journey too.)   Thankfully, I think my core character has survived the obfuscations, but more importantly, that core character isn't as horrific as I feared it could have been.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    Exactly.

    Facing the truth isn't all hardness and disadvantage, It seems to make it easier to be happy with ones self, and make you end up surrounded by the people who can "take it" without melting down.

    I used to need people to tell me I was O.K. Now I don't. I know where I'm O.K. and where I need to do work. And that massive workload will keep me busy until I die. It's my one job.