Adult revealing autism at interviews?

Hello everyone. Thanks for being so welcoming yesterday. I'm wondering if you can help me. People at work have cottoned on to my autism and have been making life difficult. I have left and I know that in my line work there will be verbal references about me, so I am thinking of explaining at my interviews that, although I am not diagnosed, it is likely that I am autistic. What do you think of this approach? What information should I have to hand? How should I educate myself about how "normal" people see autistic people? So far I know about reasonable adjustments, the Equality Act and harassment, from the .gov website. What else will I need? It would be a shame to throw away my career because of this. At least if I tell them, they can decide whether they want to employ me. I feel like I have fewer cards to play, but perhaps I have a new card - diversity. Does this card work? Thanks, and have a great day! Slight smile

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  • I wouldn't say anything at the interview stage. While employers/potential employers aren't supposed to discriminate against people with the identities mentioned in the Equality Act, there is a stigma around autism, unfortunately. Once you're in a job it can be worth disclosing if and when you need accommodations, but it's still something I'd be cautious about, depending on the job and the accommodations needed.

    I currently work in regulatory affairs which is very much a field that lends itself to autistic thinking, much like engineering is always thought of as a field where lots of autistic people end up. I still haven't told anyone there, just in case- though to be fair, I don't need any accommodations because I work from home.

  • Hi Battybats, thanks for your insight. After reading your thoughts and those from Disnep and Number, I have been hiding it for good reason. I've tried to find a work from home job in my field but unfortunately the offices either do not trust staff to be at home or want lots of staff in the office for some fake "office culture". I will take your advice and try to get my jobs without mentioning it. It's worked so far; I just cant keep the jobs.

    Funny you mention engineering. I'm already in a related field, although mine is a little more pretentious, which goes against the autism, but strangely goes with the masking. Maybe I should think about the pretentions of my industry and mask that way, with the rest of the "normals". Going with the grain rather than against. There is definitely something Orwellian about my recent experiences, and that needs to end. Thanks

  • Sorry to butt in.....

    I think this is the wise decision NAS 84940, but I would just like to squirt in a little caution here for you (forgive the adjective - I'm autistic don't you know [or just odd.])

    Don't push yourself too hard on the masking side of things.  Perhaps bring in a little self-deprecating acknowledgement of your "oddness" to give yourself a little latitude in behaviour with others - if you need to blow off some steam to keep yourself sane around work colleagues for instance.  Perhaps consciously allow yourself and give yourself permission to be outright autistic at times when you can control and/or don't care who knows what.

    I give this cautionary note to you as a gift.  You sound very similar to me, although you are self aware enough to find this place at this stage of your journey....I did not.  Accordingly, I didn't know I was masking, I just though I was dangerously messed-up in the head and that I didn't fit in this world - despite all outward appearances being to the contrary !  Don't take yourself for granted - I burnt out !

    Good luck, and it has been lovely to interact with you so openly and constructively today.

  • Its only 2 years on from my diagnosis and having had time off work due to ill health do I now realise what masking means properly for me. 

    A masking meltdown. ...I think that was me a few years ago. Good old alexithymia. I often wonder if some of alexithymia is often due to masking. We are so out of touch with what we really feel because we have tried so long to meet others' expectations.

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  • Its only 2 years on from my diagnosis and having had time off work due to ill health do I now realise what masking means properly for me. 

    A masking meltdown. ...I think that was me a few years ago. Good old alexithymia. I often wonder if some of alexithymia is often due to masking. We are so out of touch with what we really feel because we have tried so long to meet others' expectations.

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