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Hi,

I have never really done forums or online social things before so I hope I am using this correctly!

I just wondered if anyone else depends on someone, like a parent or partner, to help with 'adulting'. I rely on my parents for most things such as sorting and attending medical appointments (I struggle with speech when I'm anxious and I never understand what is going on), helping me understand and remind me about bills and rent, taking me to places and situations that I find difficult, taking me back to the family home during meltdowns, ect. They basically do everything for me as they are truly awesome!! 

I wondered if anyone else needed this support? I know my mum worries about the future and how I will cope if they aren't there (which I cannot bear to think about). Does anyone have any advice or thoughts? 

Thank you! 

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  • I have one specific area where I struggle like this: cooking. Theoretically I do know how to do it, but every time I try, I get completely overwhelmed and often end up on the verge of a meltdown. When I lived at home, my mum cooked, and then I went into catered halls of residence at uni, so people interpret it as laziness or never learning how, but it's not. It's actually this thread that made me realise it's an autism thing for me!

    I think the problem with cooking is that I can't just follow a recipe exactly and do one thing at a time, like you can with baking. You need to multitask and adapt the recipe to your own tastes, and I just can't manage that- plus I'm horribly accident-prone. One time I tried to cook and set a tea towel on fire, which was awful then but quite funny now.

    And of course, while a lot of people would be able to get by with meal kits or pre-prepared food, I have a limited range of foods I can eat, which makes it all worse. If I didn't have a partner who enjoys cooking and actively enjoys a game of "how many meals can we make from the things Gem can eat" I honestly have no idea how I'd feed myself properly.

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  • I have one specific area where I struggle like this: cooking. Theoretically I do know how to do it, but every time I try, I get completely overwhelmed and often end up on the verge of a meltdown. When I lived at home, my mum cooked, and then I went into catered halls of residence at uni, so people interpret it as laziness or never learning how, but it's not. It's actually this thread that made me realise it's an autism thing for me!

    I think the problem with cooking is that I can't just follow a recipe exactly and do one thing at a time, like you can with baking. You need to multitask and adapt the recipe to your own tastes, and I just can't manage that- plus I'm horribly accident-prone. One time I tried to cook and set a tea towel on fire, which was awful then but quite funny now.

    And of course, while a lot of people would be able to get by with meal kits or pre-prepared food, I have a limited range of foods I can eat, which makes it all worse. If I didn't have a partner who enjoys cooking and actively enjoys a game of "how many meals can we make from the things Gem can eat" I honestly have no idea how I'd feed myself properly.

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