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Hi,

I have never really done forums or online social things before so I hope I am using this correctly!

I just wondered if anyone else depends on someone, like a parent or partner, to help with 'adulting'. I rely on my parents for most things such as sorting and attending medical appointments (I struggle with speech when I'm anxious and I never understand what is going on), helping me understand and remind me about bills and rent, taking me to places and situations that I find difficult, taking me back to the family home during meltdowns, ect. They basically do everything for me as they are truly awesome!! 

I wondered if anyone else needed this support? I know my mum worries about the future and how I will cope if they aren't there (which I cannot bear to think about). Does anyone have any advice or thoughts? 

Thank you! 

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  • Welcome to the community Relaxed

    I've needed a lot of support from my mum throughout my adult life. With advancing age she is less able to help and the situation has very much reversed. It's tough and I find things much more difficult on my own.

    You could try to take on a task yourself, just one thing at a time so that you do not become too overwhelmed. If you don't understand you can ask your parents to explain. Also you can find explanations for just about everything online.

    I have a lot of problems with speech too. Most things can be done online these days, by email or live chat. You can explain how you prefer to communicate and ask for reasonable adjustments. Sometimes that strategy is successful and other times it can be extremely frustrating.

    As far as going to places I find it helps to research everything in advance. I check places using google street view so that I know exactly where I'm going and what to expect. I can still get lost though Flushed

    To avoid meltdowns in public it helps to try and work out what your triggers are and try to remove yourself from a situation before it reaches the point of complete overwhelm.

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  • Welcome to the community Relaxed

    I've needed a lot of support from my mum throughout my adult life. With advancing age she is less able to help and the situation has very much reversed. It's tough and I find things much more difficult on my own.

    You could try to take on a task yourself, just one thing at a time so that you do not become too overwhelmed. If you don't understand you can ask your parents to explain. Also you can find explanations for just about everything online.

    I have a lot of problems with speech too. Most things can be done online these days, by email or live chat. You can explain how you prefer to communicate and ask for reasonable adjustments. Sometimes that strategy is successful and other times it can be extremely frustrating.

    As far as going to places I find it helps to research everything in advance. I check places using google street view so that I know exactly where I'm going and what to expect. I can still get lost though Flushed

    To avoid meltdowns in public it helps to try and work out what your triggers are and try to remove yourself from a situation before it reaches the point of complete overwhelm.

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