*sigh*

I’ve been here since the New Year just before receiving my diagnosis and already have decided to move on from the forum. 

This is simply not the place to be having triggering discussions where people are getting upset about people’s opinions.  We’re all aware of the recent discussions where people have got upset and have threatened to leave. I have found people in my own world, over the last few weeks, months and years, to be toxic towards myself and each other and I really don’t want or need any more from people who, let’s be honest, are still strangers. 

I’ve tried to join in discussions but when I post I seem to have been largely ignored or struggle to read some people’s posts as they contain words I simply do not understand. 

Also, even logging in has proved to be more confusing and problematic than it should be.  I’m easily triggered without this frustration in my life!

it does beg the question though….why would putting a group of autistic people together, whether in person or even virtually in a forum, necessarily create a utopia?  Surely our most obvious trait, among many, is that we do not work so well as a community anyway….?

Anyway, good luck all and I hope you all can find some more inner peace.

Rich

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  • Hi, I’m sorry to hear you are leaving. I personally feel very comfortable on this forum- I would hope that this is a place where people feel comfortable voicing their opinions and saying what is on their mind- so much of our lives is spent masking already. I think it is very hard to avoid triggering people as everyone has different triggers and some may seem innocuous to most but not to whoever is triggered (eg all the crisp posts (which could be triggering for someone with an eating disorder even though crisp flavours seem quite safe as a topic...). If I don’t feel comfortable with a topic I just don’t read it or don’t engage in the discussion. I understand that that may not work for everyone. But realistically it is not possible to avoid all ‘triggering’ subjects as anything can be. What would stress me out more is constantly second guessing if it is ok to say what I’m saying- I do that for a big part of my life already when interacting with people at work or otherwise. What I love about this community is that I can be myself. And I would hope others feel like this too. For me it is worth the risk of having potential triggers if that means that people feel safe to speak their minds- That’s just my personal opinion on this

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  • Hi, I’m sorry to hear you are leaving. I personally feel very comfortable on this forum- I would hope that this is a place where people feel comfortable voicing their opinions and saying what is on their mind- so much of our lives is spent masking already. I think it is very hard to avoid triggering people as everyone has different triggers and some may seem innocuous to most but not to whoever is triggered (eg all the crisp posts (which could be triggering for someone with an eating disorder even though crisp flavours seem quite safe as a topic...). If I don’t feel comfortable with a topic I just don’t read it or don’t engage in the discussion. I understand that that may not work for everyone. But realistically it is not possible to avoid all ‘triggering’ subjects as anything can be. What would stress me out more is constantly second guessing if it is ok to say what I’m saying- I do that for a big part of my life already when interacting with people at work or otherwise. What I love about this community is that I can be myself. And I would hope others feel like this too. For me it is worth the risk of having potential triggers if that means that people feel safe to speak their minds- That’s just my personal opinion on this

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