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RJW

I’ve been here since the New Year just before receiving my diagnosis and already have decided to move on from the forum. 

This is simply not the place to be having triggering discussions where people are getting upset about people’s opinions.  We’re all aware of the recent discussions where people have got upset and have threatened to leave. I have found people in my own world, over the last few weeks, months and years, to be toxic towards myself and each other and I really don’t want or need any more from people who, let’s be honest, are still strangers. 

I’ve tried to join in discussions but when I post I seem to have been largely ignored or struggle to read some people’s posts as they contain words I simply do not understand. 

Also, even logging in has proved to be more confusing and problematic than it should be.  I’m easily triggered without this frustration in my life!

it does beg the question though….why would putting a group of autistic people together, whether in person or even virtually in a forum, necessarily create a utopia?  Surely our most obvious trait, among many, is that we do not work so well as a community anyway….?

Anyway, good luck all and I hope you all can find some more inner peace.

Rich

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  • Hi Rich,
    I hear your frustration. It can be really painful when we a history of marginalisation, even alienation, to come to a place where we are 'supposed' to find people who will finally make us feel seen and understood, only to experience similar isolation. We don't know each other, and I respect you for making the right decision for you. Things have been challenging here recently, and it's important to keep ourselves safe.

    Having said this, if you would feel able to give us another chance, you could take a break and come back once things have calmed down here? You haven't been here long, and whilst of course I would hope for everyone to be welcomed from the outset, it can take a while for people to get to know each other. Also, as you seem to acknowledge, the fact we're autistic won't on its own guarantee that we will 'click.' We all have our challenges with communication in different ways, probably at least in part because many of us have masked for years in different ways.

    All this to say that it's totally up to you, but that I value the diversity of this space despite how challenging the clash of different opinions has been of late. If you're open to giving us another chance, I'm sure many here would appreciate getting to know you.

    If you do leave, good luck out there. I hope you can find spaces where you feel safe to be yourself and make the connections we all deserve.  

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  • Hi Rich,
    I hear your frustration. It can be really painful when we a history of marginalisation, even alienation, to come to a place where we are 'supposed' to find people who will finally make us feel seen and understood, only to experience similar isolation. We don't know each other, and I respect you for making the right decision for you. Things have been challenging here recently, and it's important to keep ourselves safe.

    Having said this, if you would feel able to give us another chance, you could take a break and come back once things have calmed down here? You haven't been here long, and whilst of course I would hope for everyone to be welcomed from the outset, it can take a while for people to get to know each other. Also, as you seem to acknowledge, the fact we're autistic won't on its own guarantee that we will 'click.' We all have our challenges with communication in different ways, probably at least in part because many of us have masked for years in different ways.

    All this to say that it's totally up to you, but that I value the diversity of this space despite how challenging the clash of different opinions has been of late. If you're open to giving us another chance, I'm sure many here would appreciate getting to know you.

    If you do leave, good luck out there. I hope you can find spaces where you feel safe to be yourself and make the connections we all deserve.  

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