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RJW

I’ve been here since the New Year just before receiving my diagnosis and already have decided to move on from the forum. 

This is simply not the place to be having triggering discussions where people are getting upset about people’s opinions.  We’re all aware of the recent discussions where people have got upset and have threatened to leave. I have found people in my own world, over the last few weeks, months and years, to be toxic towards myself and each other and I really don’t want or need any more from people who, let’s be honest, are still strangers. 

I’ve tried to join in discussions but when I post I seem to have been largely ignored or struggle to read some people’s posts as they contain words I simply do not understand. 

Also, even logging in has proved to be more confusing and problematic than it should be.  I’m easily triggered without this frustration in my life!

it does beg the question though….why would putting a group of autistic people together, whether in person or even virtually in a forum, necessarily create a utopia?  Surely our most obvious trait, among many, is that we do not work so well as a community anyway….?

Anyway, good luck all and I hope you all can find some more inner peace.

Rich

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  • RJW said:
    Surely our most obvious trait, among many, is that we do not work so well as a community anyway….?

    I think we have the capacity to work very well together when we have an accepting and forgiving overtone to the conversations.

    Aspies have often formed groups for their shared special interests (trains, role playing games, comicon etc) and on the whole get on well in these enviroments in our own communities.

    Life is often with lots of bumps in the road and I find that if these trigger you, it is worth seeking therapy to be able to manage the trigger response, and you can relax more to enjoy the journey.

    If you find the discussions triggering then I would recommend just passing them by and focus on the ones that don't do this to you. Life is too short to let the few negatives (from your point of view) spoil what is otherwise a great site.

    Good luck in finding some peace in the meantime.

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  • RJW said:
    Surely our most obvious trait, among many, is that we do not work so well as a community anyway….?

    I think we have the capacity to work very well together when we have an accepting and forgiving overtone to the conversations.

    Aspies have often formed groups for their shared special interests (trains, role playing games, comicon etc) and on the whole get on well in these enviroments in our own communities.

    Life is often with lots of bumps in the road and I find that if these trigger you, it is worth seeking therapy to be able to manage the trigger response, and you can relax more to enjoy the journey.

    If you find the discussions triggering then I would recommend just passing them by and focus on the ones that don't do this to you. Life is too short to let the few negatives (from your point of view) spoil what is otherwise a great site.

    Good luck in finding some peace in the meantime.

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