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Protecting your children from Danger - where does it end???

Lady Z

Hi all, I really need your advice and support on this one.  My son's obsession with planes, trains and automobiles has gone to a whole new level - read on:

My son is 8, and has wanted to play out with his friends for a fair while now, and my husband and I decided, with the help of a tracker device on his mobile, to let him play in the street with a couple of his friends.  All was going well, he came home crying a couple of times - as always, his social behaviours are lacking, but a couple of his friends know exactly what his like - and I take my hat off to them!

So we thought that letting him play out during the school holidays was a big step to take for him and also it meant that we could have a bit of a breather.

My husband came home from the shop yesterday with some very disturbing news.  My son had been ambushing strangers in the street as they got in their cars, asking to have a look inside their cars!!

You can imagine my horror!  His time outside with his friends was immediatley revoked!  I have, however, taken a few steps of my own as childrens services seem to go to ground during holidays, evenings and weekends!

A friend of mine is a PCSO so I asked her for some advice, she is going to get in touch with the community team who have the Ben and Jet childrens awareness programme.  Also the Hypermobility Association has a lady who deals with suffers with children who have special needs, and Im waiting for her to contact me.  Im trying to get all bases covered, and then theres you all.  If theres anything else I can do or anyone else I can contact??

Many thanks to you all, in advance x

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  • Hi - me again.  I was a single parent on benefits with no family near to help and also they didn't understand.  At that time we were fairly new to the area and basically isolated.  It is an enormous strain, without being wheel-chair dependent on top of it.  Services can be shocking.  They vary from area to area and all are under increasing pressure from government cuts.  That's no consolation whatsoever.  I'm presuming your son has a diagnosis of autism and is statemented for school which should help him.  On the home page there should be links to appealing social services decisions etc.  I would also look into applying for carers allowance and a carer's assessment if you haven't already tried.  I'm no expert but the CAB can be very helpful with the process and also maybe able to help with social care decisions as well.  Others may be along soon who are more knowledgeable and up to date than me.  I think all of you are being treated disgracefully and if all else fails and if you haven't already then you should write to your MP and your councillor and the director who are in charge of Children and Families Services at your town hall.  I hope you get some help soon, you deserve to.

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  • Hi - me again.  I was a single parent on benefits with no family near to help and also they didn't understand.  At that time we were fairly new to the area and basically isolated.  It is an enormous strain, without being wheel-chair dependent on top of it.  Services can be shocking.  They vary from area to area and all are under increasing pressure from government cuts.  That's no consolation whatsoever.  I'm presuming your son has a diagnosis of autism and is statemented for school which should help him.  On the home page there should be links to appealing social services decisions etc.  I would also look into applying for carers allowance and a carer's assessment if you haven't already tried.  I'm no expert but the CAB can be very helpful with the process and also maybe able to help with social care decisions as well.  Others may be along soon who are more knowledgeable and up to date than me.  I think all of you are being treated disgracefully and if all else fails and if you haven't already then you should write to your MP and your councillor and the director who are in charge of Children and Families Services at your town hall.  I hope you get some help soon, you deserve to.

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