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Protecting your children from Danger - where does it end???

Lady Z

Hi all, I really need your advice and support on this one.  My son's obsession with planes, trains and automobiles has gone to a whole new level - read on:

My son is 8, and has wanted to play out with his friends for a fair while now, and my husband and I decided, with the help of a tracker device on his mobile, to let him play in the street with a couple of his friends.  All was going well, he came home crying a couple of times - as always, his social behaviours are lacking, but a couple of his friends know exactly what his like - and I take my hat off to them!

So we thought that letting him play out during the school holidays was a big step to take for him and also it meant that we could have a bit of a breather.

My husband came home from the shop yesterday with some very disturbing news.  My son had been ambushing strangers in the street as they got in their cars, asking to have a look inside their cars!!

You can imagine my horror!  His time outside with his friends was immediatley revoked!  I have, however, taken a few steps of my own as childrens services seem to go to ground during holidays, evenings and weekends!

A friend of mine is a PCSO so I asked her for some advice, she is going to get in touch with the community team who have the Ben and Jet childrens awareness programme.  Also the Hypermobility Association has a lady who deals with suffers with children who have special needs, and Im waiting for her to contact me.  Im trying to get all bases covered, and then theres you all.  If theres anything else I can do or anyone else I can contact??

Many thanks to you all, in advance x

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  • Thank you both for your advice. Forgive my ignorance, and Im by no means excusing myself (god forbid).  I live in a small village, we have no friends and no family and no support.  We have single-handedly raised our son as the 'childrens services' refuse to help as he hasnt got a learning disability - which I beg to differ by the way - and I have shouted as loud as I can asking for help and advice.

    we live in a very small 2 bed bungalow and I am wheelchair-dependant. When he was outside with his friends he was supervised (husband watching out of the window).  I agree, maybe he shouldnt have been allowed to play out with his friends -but the other option being him bouncing off all of the walls shouting and screaming and making noises etc etc.  We are trying our best.  We have put in for a move but the housing association have told us that they can only do so much.

    So yeah - I hold up my hand - I let my child out in the street and yes, it could have had desasterous consequences. We need help and advice and support from fellow parents and friends and families who are affected by the spectrum in every way. Im not here to point the finger etc. I screwed up - can anyone please help us to get back on track??

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  • Thank you both for your advice. Forgive my ignorance, and Im by no means excusing myself (god forbid).  I live in a small village, we have no friends and no family and no support.  We have single-handedly raised our son as the 'childrens services' refuse to help as he hasnt got a learning disability - which I beg to differ by the way - and I have shouted as loud as I can asking for help and advice.

    we live in a very small 2 bed bungalow and I am wheelchair-dependant. When he was outside with his friends he was supervised (husband watching out of the window).  I agree, maybe he shouldnt have been allowed to play out with his friends -but the other option being him bouncing off all of the walls shouting and screaming and making noises etc etc.  We are trying our best.  We have put in for a move but the housing association have told us that they can only do so much.

    So yeah - I hold up my hand - I let my child out in the street and yes, it could have had desasterous consequences. We need help and advice and support from fellow parents and friends and families who are affected by the spectrum in every way. Im not here to point the finger etc. I screwed up - can anyone please help us to get back on track??

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