Autistic daughter and crying

Hi all,

I have 2 questions to ask

 1. I am an NT parent of an 11 year old high functioning autistic daughter.

When she worries, she cries and sobs (. e.g having to go to school that day). When my NT  daughter worries about something, she tells me she is worried but does not cry.

When my autistic daughter cries I feel really helpless as I want to help but do not always know what to say or do and have trouble gauging how severe her feelings/anxiety is.

A weird question- I see crying as a major sign that something is really really wrong. (e.g " So upset that she cried" how ).

With autistic children and girls in particular, does crying mean such extreme distress or is it physical  response to even a minor worry that they know they can deal with?

In other words,  should I always be on high alert when she is crying?

2. I find my daughter is much more calmer /better as the day progresses- is that common?

Thank you  for your help.

Parents
  • I think signs of extreme distress (such as sobbing and crying) are still signs of extreme distress - whoever you are, autistic or not autistic. 
    I think anxiety can be worse in the morning (cortisol levels are higher in the morning). But could this be specifically related to going to school in the morning? What does she herself say about this?

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  • I think signs of extreme distress (such as sobbing and crying) are still signs of extreme distress - whoever you are, autistic or not autistic. 
    I think anxiety can be worse in the morning (cortisol levels are higher in the morning). But could this be specifically related to going to school in the morning? What does she herself say about this?

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