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Need help finding someone to talk to

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Hi I was wondering if any of you helpful people could help push me in the right direction for someone to talk to. 

I am self diagnosed, on the waiting list for official diagnosis. I’m in my late 30’s and only realised just over a year ago so I’m still learning and researching every day. 

I was coping with this, some up and some down days with it all but like most of us on here glad to know and have some explanations as to my behaviour and ways of thinking down the years. 

however my relationship has really broken down lately and I think partly because of my other half knowing about all this and not being able to deal with it. I really want to save our relationship and I’m at rock bottom. I have no one at all to talk to, I don’t find it comfortable with my family and I have no friends. I was looking for suggestions if anyone has any. Are Samaritans good for this sort of thing? Are there any other numbers I can ring for help? Or can anyone recommend any good autistic friendly therapists? I have been looking on a website but there’s so many on there and I don’t want to make the wrong choice as the advice this therapist gives me could radically change my life. 

having suicidal ideas all day every day at the minute. I don’t think I would do it as I wouldn’t want to put it on my family but it’s certainly how I feel. 

thanks for any help 

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  • I’m so sorry you’re struggling so much at the moment. It sounds like you’re dealing with so much. It’s such a shame that your partner isn’t as supportive as he ideally would be. Does he have a full understanding of autism? Or is he reacting like this out of misconceptions about autism? Because the realisation that you are autistic really isn’t something that should be viewed so negatively - you’re still you, you’re still the same person - nothing has changed in that respect. 
    I’m not sure who it would be best to talk to in terms of counselling or therapy - I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful in that way. If you’re feeling suicidal then all mental health helplines would be applicable in that sense. They might also be able to point you in the direction of other support. 
    This community is always here for you and I’ve found people on here to be extraordinarily kind and supportive - and a great source of advice and solidarity. So you’re really not alone - though I completely understand why it feels that way. 
    Please know that as horrible and desperate as you feel right now this crisis will pass and you will get through it. Don’t give up! It won’t always be like this - this will pass and I promise you that in time you’ll find yourself in a happier phase of your life. 

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  • I’m so sorry you’re struggling so much at the moment. It sounds like you’re dealing with so much. It’s such a shame that your partner isn’t as supportive as he ideally would be. Does he have a full understanding of autism? Or is he reacting like this out of misconceptions about autism? Because the realisation that you are autistic really isn’t something that should be viewed so negatively - you’re still you, you’re still the same person - nothing has changed in that respect. 
    I’m not sure who it would be best to talk to in terms of counselling or therapy - I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful in that way. If you’re feeling suicidal then all mental health helplines would be applicable in that sense. They might also be able to point you in the direction of other support. 
    This community is always here for you and I’ve found people on here to be extraordinarily kind and supportive - and a great source of advice and solidarity. So you’re really not alone - though I completely understand why it feels that way. 
    Please know that as horrible and desperate as you feel right now this crisis will pass and you will get through it. Don’t give up! It won’t always be like this - this will pass and I promise you that in time you’ll find yourself in a happier phase of your life. 

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