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Large groups of (strange) people

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I think this is part of the issue.

In October, I joined a music group and there was something like 8 people and I quickly settled in. Someone mentioned that there was a group which was quite a bit closer to me and I asked for some information on them.

I was then contacted via Facebook by 2 people who attend the group. I attended the group and settled in with no problem.

I was asked by various members of each group if / when there was going to be a group set up where I am. (not because they wanted to get rid of me; but due to travel stuff / distance)

The group was set up in May and by this time, I'd left the first group because of distance, which I'd discussed with organiser.

At first, we only had 5-6 people there, which I was fine with and had been talking to one of them for about 6 months previously.

We put an advert in the local paper because not everyone has access to Facebook (how the group was set up) and a lot of people turned up.

This appears to have caused a serious problem for me and I've really not enjoyed the previous 2 (didn't go last week) weeks.

I am finding it far too overwhelming socially to be in a group that big. :( It wasn't helped by going from 6 people to 20. It may have been easier if it had increased slowly.

Does anyone else get this? Yet, I can happily go to the pub with a few friends when there's loads of people in there with no problem.

I have just been asked about where I've been from another member. No-one is aware that I'm Autistic and how much of an issue this is becoming.

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  • My friends alway ready know I have difficulties in these social areas, they can't understand that once I am close friend I can Jibber-jabber, but when around strangers I freeze up.  My friend would take off the edge of introductions, subject talk until I was comfortable enough to get involved. They are acting as a protector and a leg to hide behind. The problem would be that if the friend suddenly left me alone, I would freak out. The friend acts a constant, a bridge, guide and protector. I am not talking a rigid relationship more an understanding of how my Aspergers effects my socializing, I just get overwhelmed in a large setting and my friend helps organise it into small social chunks.

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  • My friends alway ready know I have difficulties in these social areas, they can't understand that once I am close friend I can Jibber-jabber, but when around strangers I freeze up.  My friend would take off the edge of introductions, subject talk until I was comfortable enough to get involved. They are acting as a protector and a leg to hide behind. The problem would be that if the friend suddenly left me alone, I would freak out. The friend acts a constant, a bridge, guide and protector. I am not talking a rigid relationship more an understanding of how my Aspergers effects my socializing, I just get overwhelmed in a large setting and my friend helps organise it into small social chunks.

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