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Large groups of (strange) people

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I think this is part of the issue.

In October, I joined a music group and there was something like 8 people and I quickly settled in. Someone mentioned that there was a group which was quite a bit closer to me and I asked for some information on them.

I was then contacted via Facebook by 2 people who attend the group. I attended the group and settled in with no problem.

I was asked by various members of each group if / when there was going to be a group set up where I am. (not because they wanted to get rid of me; but due to travel stuff / distance)

The group was set up in May and by this time, I'd left the first group because of distance, which I'd discussed with organiser.

At first, we only had 5-6 people there, which I was fine with and had been talking to one of them for about 6 months previously.

We put an advert in the local paper because not everyone has access to Facebook (how the group was set up) and a lot of people turned up.

This appears to have caused a serious problem for me and I've really not enjoyed the previous 2 (didn't go last week) weeks.

I am finding it far too overwhelming socially to be in a group that big. :( It wasn't helped by going from 6 people to 20. It may have been easier if it had increased slowly.

Does anyone else get this? Yet, I can happily go to the pub with a few friends when there's loads of people in there with no problem.

I have just been asked about where I've been from another member. No-one is aware that I'm Autistic and how much of an issue this is becoming.

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  • Longman good overview, enjoyed reading that, especially the humans are monkeys or it is monkeys are human, or is it human monkeys, oh thats it ! ..Money Mouth oo, oo !

    You may have the answer in there, if you take the sub-group and reduce it to just you and one friend, the friend acts as a social shield by being more or less constant because you know the strains of them and therefore no surprises. The large group or sub-groups do not exist they become virtual people so to speak and you have a guard.

    I may try this concept myself, but I must the tell the friend, they are the shield and constant in the environment, a bit like what a support worker does, except the friend is more free range.

    I see a picture in my mind of a cell, dividing but growing by sub-cells, remember music is the body.

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  • Longman good overview, enjoyed reading that, especially the humans are monkeys or it is monkeys are human, or is it human monkeys, oh thats it ! ..Money Mouth oo, oo !

    You may have the answer in there, if you take the sub-group and reduce it to just you and one friend, the friend acts as a social shield by being more or less constant because you know the strains of them and therefore no surprises. The large group or sub-groups do not exist they become virtual people so to speak and you have a guard.

    I may try this concept myself, but I must the tell the friend, they are the shield and constant in the environment, a bit like what a support worker does, except the friend is more free range.

    I see a picture in my mind of a cell, dividing but growing by sub-cells, remember music is the body.

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