If I had a pound for every social event that I didn’t want to attend, I would be rich. My mood change will start weeks before the event, it would peak the week before with either becoming non verbal or instigating an argument. This went on for years, I didn’t know I am autistic. My wife often had to attend things on her own. Option B was I would drink so much alcohol , I could l shut down the anxiety, most probably the wrong way to express it but, I could stop being so autistic for a few hours, I don’t recommend it, it doesn’t cure the miscommunication problems! Most people who matter know I’m autistic and will rescue me, my wife doesn’t pressure me anymore, she now really gets how much it affects me, it’s one less thing that I beat myself up for now. Limit the time at an event, I use excuses if I do attend, “ just need to get something from the car,” escape for 10 minutes and have quiet time.
I find I use the toilet to hide! When I was in my early teens, my parents would force me to go to classmates' parties (on the grounds that, if I was asked, it would be rude to refuse) and I would hide in the toilets, not knowing why I hated it and was desperate to leave. Of course, now I know the reason.
I find I use the toilet to hide! When I was in my early teens, my parents would force me to go to classmates' parties (on the grounds that, if I was asked, it would be rude to refuse) and I would hide in the toilets, not knowing why I hated it and was desperate to leave. Of course, now I know the reason.
I did the same, I remember taking my son to an evening school disco, I drove him there and went in with him, it took him 10 seconds to say,” I can’t stay, can we go home, it’s too noisy and there’s too many people.” I was angry because I was there, I didn’t know I’m autistic and drove him home and took it out on him, verbally, but that’s even worse to be honest. How didn’t I see the signs, then again I didn’t see the signs in myself. Just another thing to beat myself up with. My son is now 26 and we read each other really well.
