My autistic boyfriend goes radio silence when stressfull things happen.

Right now, exams are coming up and we need to learn or make them. I know school work drains him and he has a lot of stress but everytime he gets mad at me or he just ignores me out of the blue. Last week I got zero communication just out of nowhere and monday he confessed in his way that school was hard and that he was having long days, he didnt explain why he ignored me the whole week that was just his comments. So i am assuming its the reason he did it but then this wednesday I sent him a text that I wanted to hug him and miss him and he again went radio silence on me after that sentence, did I freak him out? I already askes him if maybe I was the problem and he wanted to break up but to those he doesnt answer and acted all normal Monday. I really dont know what to do. Is his behaviour there because of the huge amount of stress he is going through of school or ? and how do I help to make him feel supported if he just pushes me away for no reason.

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  • You are not alone, I’m 55 and have been married for 31 years, my wife knows a lot of my past life, before the realisation of autism, as in her words,”radio silence”.  It takes a bit of learning on both sides.  I still become mute and decline any contact when things become too much. It’s a safety release for autistic people, I now get asked by my wife, sometimes just a comment, can I help, what can I do ? Do you need some space? It’s not all about me, it’s learning to be totally honest with each other. Finding out I’m autistic has honestly saved my life, I feel you are much younger, talk when both of you are ready, His exams will pass, life afterwards is much longer.

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  • You are not alone, I’m 55 and have been married for 31 years, my wife knows a lot of my past life, before the realisation of autism, as in her words,”radio silence”.  It takes a bit of learning on both sides.  I still become mute and decline any contact when things become too much. It’s a safety release for autistic people, I now get asked by my wife, sometimes just a comment, can I help, what can I do ? Do you need some space? It’s not all about me, it’s learning to be totally honest with each other. Finding out I’m autistic has honestly saved my life, I feel you are much younger, talk when both of you are ready, His exams will pass, life afterwards is much longer.

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