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My friend has started dating,

Bodhisattva- neil

I don’t have a large amount of friends, most people I interact with are colleagues and the interaction is work based.

my social circle is made up of two ladies, both a similar age to me, one of them has been dating guys for as long as I can remember. I have never been over bothered by “boyfriends” that have come along and gone away. 
The second friend has recently started dating a guy and it has really effected me., so much so that I considering pulling away from her. 
Has  anyone else felt like this and how have you behaved in a situation such as this 

all thoughts are welcome.

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  • Hi. Slight smile

    I'm sorry that I don't have any advice at the moment. For everyone's benefit, could you please explain exactly what you mean by feeling 'threatened'? This might help us to understand, and so give truly relevant advice. I apologise for not understanding whether you perhaps feel jealous or feel worried about losing the friendship or maybe you dislike the new boyfriend or disapprove of him. Or for other reasons.

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  • Hi. Slight smile

    I'm sorry that I don't have any advice at the moment. For everyone's benefit, could you please explain exactly what you mean by feeling 'threatened'? This might help us to understand, and so give truly relevant advice. I apologise for not understanding whether you perhaps feel jealous or feel worried about losing the friendship or maybe you dislike the new boyfriend or disapprove of him. Or for other reasons.

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  • in reply to Steven

    Yes of course, the sensation I feel is an unpleasant pain in my chest cavity. 
    I can explain it like this. 
    It’s the same feeling I get when I have very nearly reversed my car in to something. I call that my “near miss” feeling. 
    I get it a lot. 
    Feeling Threatened was a quote from an earlier reply and I think I can link my physical “near miss” sensation to being very worried about my friendship being taken away.