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Messy Bedroom

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Hello, 

I care for a young person (12) who has a diagnosis of Autism. 

As a team we are really struggling to have a tidy bedroom. 

We have offered rails / clear boxes so they can visually see their items and offer to help tidy every day so this doesn't get worse. 

Unfortunately, the above has not worked. 

It got to a stage where we had to tidy this when they left the home but this lead to melt down after due to them not knowing where their items are. 

We as a team have to ensure they have a tidy bedroom but want to respect and support her diagnosis. 

Do you have any tips on how we can approach this? 

Thank you! 

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  • Why does she have to have a tidy bedroom? How tidy are your standards? I am not a tidy person and have always failed at this, but my ideal aesthetic is not minimalist but more boho. I would like to achieve this, but I would not enjoy the overly tidy and ordered environments that tidy people favour, I need to see a certain amount of friendly clutter or the place does not seem homely to me.

    If I go to a hotel it feels too impersonal so I want to scatter a few of my things around so it feels less alien. I don't know if this is my autism, my ADHD inattentive type or just me!

    Maybe have a chat with her about what her ideal room would be like, look at some images on pinterest or web searches?

    Another thought - when I have been in burnout or stress I seem to make a clutter fort or cocoon, it's not even just about not wanting to tidy up then, it's somehow protective. 12 is a very difficult age as there is a lot of change, puberty, what was called senior school when I was there, what is it now, high school?

    Your post sounds so impersonal (observation, not criticism) is this your daughter or is she in care or what?

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  • Why does she have to have a tidy bedroom? How tidy are your standards? I am not a tidy person and have always failed at this, but my ideal aesthetic is not minimalist but more boho. I would like to achieve this, but I would not enjoy the overly tidy and ordered environments that tidy people favour, I need to see a certain amount of friendly clutter or the place does not seem homely to me.

    If I go to a hotel it feels too impersonal so I want to scatter a few of my things around so it feels less alien. I don't know if this is my autism, my ADHD inattentive type or just me!

    Maybe have a chat with her about what her ideal room would be like, look at some images on pinterest or web searches?

    Another thought - when I have been in burnout or stress I seem to make a clutter fort or cocoon, it's not even just about not wanting to tidy up then, it's somehow protective. 12 is a very difficult age as there is a lot of change, puberty, what was called senior school when I was there, what is it now, high school?

    Your post sounds so impersonal (observation, not criticism) is this your daughter or is she in care or what?

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